{{{Maria}}} I am still dragging my feet on probate because it is just that hard. But I can assure you that no one comes and raps your knuckles for not jumping on it right away.

If you can get someone else to take care of any of it for you (any of us, people at the funeral home, a family lawyer) go ahead and let them. There's no virtue in doing everything yourself.

Oh Maria, my poor lady. I'm so sorry you're feeling overwhelmed. Is there anyone who can help you, or at least keep you company while you're working on this stuff?

Aims, I'm very glad your first visit was good! And huh, I should try that opposite thing.

As soon as I finish lunch and coffee, I am going to start recording the radio shows, like I said I would. Plus it will distract me from constantly refreshing my email, looking for a message about when the HR munchkin has scheduled my interview loop.

Maria,

I can imagine.

hopefully you can get a good probate attorney who could walk you through all of what you might need to do now vs. things that can wait in the short term.

You were married, so that should help you in the short term (you should still have access to family funds, your house etc.), but anyone else will have to wait awhile.

If you can get someone else to take care of any of it for you (any of us, people at the funeral home, a family lawyer) go ahead and let them. There's no virtue in doing everything yourself.

-t is very wise. Hard-won wisdom that I wish she didn't have experience with, but still. Very wise.

There's no virtue in doing everything yourself.

Truer words, Maria. Holding you in my thoughts today. If there's anything I can do, I will. Just ask.

Oh, blessed be, Maria, probate. Bah. A surviving spouse should have few roadblocks, though.

I've mentioned wills to Hubby. It freaks him out. My parents did quickie "Everything to my spouse wills" two years before Daddy died, and it saved a lot of grief because it turned out Mother's name wasn't on the deed to the house.

I need to get someone else to take care of it. And it can't wait. His car is worth more than he owes on it, and I don't want the bank to reposses it. I also don't want to keep making payments on it either. It's in his name only. The house is in my name only. We each had our own bank accounts, plus a joint one for the house. He probably doesn't have much in his since he didn't make a dime in 2011, and I have no idea if he has any other creditors. I know he was a personal guarantor on the loan for Warrior Aviation, but there are four others on there too, and it's more than adequately collateralized.

His personal finances and organization are a mess. I opened up the file cabinet in the office and crap was just thrown in there. I'm so angry I could scream. I'm also missing him desperately. I hate this so much. I want him back.

His personal finances and organization are a mess. I opened up the file cabinet in the office and crap was just thrown in there. I'm so angry I could scream. I'm also missing him desperately. I hate this so much. I want him back.

Oh honey. We went through this with Mom last year. Get other people to help, because it is going to be too overwhelming for you.

{{Maria}} So sorry on all this. I hope you find someone to take care of this for you quickly.

I have no advice to give, just: {{{{{Maria}}}}}