Aims, that's awesome (re your sister)!
Thanks for the good wishes, all. So, shivas are horrible. Give me a good drunken Irish wake over this any day. And ours only last one day. I would really, really like some wine. At 12.30 in the afternoon.
She just... she just did the math.
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Seska (the Watcher-in-Training) - Dec 28, 2011 12:20:23 am PST #4776 of 30001
"We're all stories, in the end. Just make it a good one, eh?"
Shir - Dec 28, 2011 1:22:05 am PST #4777 of 30001
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
Oh, dear.
Can I amuse you with horrible shiva stories? Like the time when a friend's family started a huge argument on who is more orphan: the aunt without the mother, or the aunt without the father? Or the one, in my grandfather's shiva, where I heard an hour and a half lecture about the fascinating world of fire security protocols in aviation? (after 40 minutes, I leaned towards my sister and asked "oh, and you thought the funeral was the hard part, didn't you?").
(Yes, shivas are a bit like reality shows, where you have to survive one's family).
Shir - Dec 28, 2011 1:22:34 am PST #4778 of 30001
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
And Aims - I'm so happy for you. That's really awesome.
Anne W. - Dec 28, 2011 4:04:33 am PST #4779 of 30001
The lost sheep grow teeth, forsake their lambs, and lie with the lions.
Can I get some general ~ma for myself right now? As some of you know, I've been kind of up and down for a month, and right now I'm really, really down, and really feeling like a failure at everything, to the point where I'm on the verge of making it a self-fulfilling prophecy at work. I'm feeling physically removed from my closest friends, and I'm feeling like it wouldn't make any difference to anyone but my mom if I never left my house again.
Laura - Dec 28, 2011 4:29:29 am PST #4780 of 30001
Our wings are not tired.
Oh, Anne. I'm sorry that you are struggling. Are you able to take some time to pamper yourself?
Anne W. - Dec 28, 2011 4:40:33 am PST #4781 of 30001
The lost sheep grow teeth, forsake their lambs, and lie with the lions.
I'm not sure pampering would help. Right now, I just want to feel competent at something.
sj - Dec 28, 2011 4:52:08 am PST #4782 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
{{{Anne}}} I'm so sorry you're going through that. Is there anything we can do to help, other than sending all the ~ma your way?
amyth - Dec 28, 2011 4:53:58 am PST #4783 of 30001
And none of us deserving the cruelty or the grace -- Leonard Cohen
Oh, Anne. Lots of ~ma. Feeling that way is the worst. Like sj said, please let us know if there's anything else we can do.
Laura - Dec 28, 2011 4:57:25 am PST #4784 of 30001
Our wings are not tired.
All kinds of ~ma. Competency may be a bit subjective for you to make the call. Perhaps you can make a lst of your top 3 successes to be more objective. How we feel about our own competency is usually not accurate. Borrow some of Newt's self confidence. He has plenty to spare.
Anne W. - Dec 28, 2011 5:45:32 am PST #4785 of 30001
The lost sheep grow teeth, forsake their lambs, and lie with the lions.
Thank you. I'll give that a try, but right now I'm trying to overcome the paralysis that comes with this drop in confidence (and I'd gladly take Newt's, especially of it would get him to shut up). I'm having trouble starting on things, and I feel like giving up altogether on things I like (writing, drawing, etc.) because I feel like I'll never be any good. I'm having trouble getting what I know is true to override what I feel is true.
The kicker is that I'm supposed to do my trimester review, complete with self-rating, this week. HA HA HA.