Well, this was my first session with a psychiatrist here, so it was really weird giving him the whole backstory and trying to represent it accurately. My psychiatrist at home definitely saw a difference - I switched to Zoloft and changed jobs at about the same time (Oct. 2010), so I really don't know what's what.
Yes. Men like sports. Men watch the action movie, they eat of the beef, and enjoy to look at the bosoms. A thousand years of avenging our wrongs and that's all you've learned?
Xander ,'End of Days'
Spike's Bitches 47: Someone Dangerous Could Get In
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
smonster - Dec 14, 2011 4:58:40 pm PST #4225 of 30001
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
Cass - Dec 14, 2011 5:01:44 pm PST #4226 of 30001
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
I’m going to miss him a lot.
Byron was a wonderful cat and you gave him the best life. And he returned that love. I am sorry for your loss and thinking about you all tonight.
Polter-Cow - Dec 14, 2011 5:10:40 pm PST #4227 of 30001
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!
So there's this girl I've had a general crush on for approximately 20 months, but I haven't really done anything about it because what's the point. But I figured that if there was one girl I knew that I would ask out, it would be her (well, there are others, but I thought she had the highest probability of dating yes).
Since I am the dateless wonder, I take female friends to my company holiday party so I'm not so alone. This year, I asked her, and she said it sounded like fun.
When I messaged her to confirm her availability, she did. And also spelled out in no uncertain terms that it should be clear to everyone we were just friends, we're friends, she wants to hang out with her friend, she's not interested in a date.
Why do I even ever entertain the slightest notion, the tiniest inclination to actually ask a girl out? Now I'm getting rejected even without asking! (This is actually the second time I've been preemptively rejected, but I wasn't interested the first time.)
Burrell - Dec 14, 2011 5:31:12 pm PST #4228 of 30001
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
So sorry for your loss, Pix.
Ugh P-C, I've been in that situation too many times. It's hard, no lie, but in a week or so you'll be happier to let her go her way.
lisah - Dec 14, 2011 5:55:10 pm PST #4229 of 30001
Punishingly Intricate
Pix, I'm so sorry for your loss.
Connie Neil - Dec 14, 2011 6:02:28 pm PST #4230 of 30001
brillig
Polter, it's too bad you didn't have the mental wherewithal to laugh--textually, anyway--and say "Oh, gosh, no, I can't imagine anyone thinking I'm dating you."
§ ita § - Dec 14, 2011 6:15:15 pm PST #4231 of 30001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
Once I stressed to a guy that it wasn't going to be a date, because I didn't want to be that chick that led him on, and then "suddenly" said no after we were getting on so famously. That's a really uncomfortable place to be in, and if she suspects that you do Like like her, she might be trying to spare you a very awkward scene in the future.
The guy I told that regarded it as a date anyway, and the next day sent me a long email about how well suited we were romantically for each other. And then (in front of me) told other guys to ask me out platonically if they wanted to go on a stealth date with me.
Which is all sorts of behaviour you wouldn't indulge in, PC. But it's the sort of thing women can be trying to forestall, without trying to act like a bitch.
Polter-Cow - Dec 14, 2011 7:39:31 pm PST #4232 of 30001
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!
Yeah, I can see her position and desire to avoid a certain awkward situation. And it's probably better to know and move on. But it's annoying. And doesn't help my general state of mind.
§ ita § - Dec 14, 2011 7:45:10 pm PST #4233 of 30001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
No, it's not great to hear, but better to hear it smaller now, rather than later where it would hurt more, I figure. At least, that's what I was thinking in my situation, But then out came his passive aggressive behaviour for weeks. Protip: don't do that.
DavidS - Dec 14, 2011 7:52:44 pm PST #4234 of 30001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Yeah, I can see her position and desire to avoid a certain awkward situation. And it's probably better to know and move on. But it's annoying. And doesn't help my general state of mind.
When you leave things out in a grey zone for 20 months, that creates its own problems. So that's probably why she felt the need to articulate boundaries.