Book: Where's the doctor? Not back yet? Zoe: (beat) We don't make him hurry for the little stuff. He'll be along. Book: He could hurry... a little.

'Safe'


Spike's Bitches 47: Someone Dangerous Could Get In  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


le nubian - Sep 26, 2011 12:54:56 pm PDT #296 of 30001
"And to be clear, I am the hell. And the high water."

man. your bank is a trip and a half.


amych - Sep 26, 2011 3:08:25 pm PDT #297 of 30001
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?

Sox, your bank is insane. I previously thought all banks were insane, but yours is extra-special-super NUTS.


Calli - Sep 26, 2011 3:22:55 pm PDT #298 of 30001
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs

Nora, I hope your friend recovers as fully as possible.

Sox, I hope the banking stuff gets cleared up quickly.

Sorry about the work problems, smonster.

I just did a trial run on packing for my trip later this week. It looks like I'll be able to get everything in my carry-on and pocketbook. I'll still check the carry-on, but I won't have to schlep my big suitcase around airports, through train stations, and up staircases.


Stephanie - Sep 26, 2011 4:22:54 pm PDT #299 of 30001
Trust my rage

So...I haven't mentioned this divorce or baby on FB. Because it's too huge and I don't really want to deal with having to give lots of details and lots of "oh, I'm so sorry" and so on. But, if I plan to continue to use FB, which I'd like to, I have to mention it eventually. I want to wait on the baby but mention the divorce now. But it seems easy to get it all out there are once.

Ideas, wise hivemind? Maybe I should just not care? (I was waiting until after my SILs wedding but I still haven't gotten around to mentioning it, I've noticed.)


le nubian - Sep 26, 2011 4:26:40 pm PDT #300 of 30001
"And to be clear, I am the hell. And the high water."

mention the divorce now.

delay the baby for a bit. that would be my advice.


beekaytee - Sep 26, 2011 4:42:20 pm PDT #301 of 30001
Compassionately intolerant

I agree. The disclosure process is about what is comfortable for you.

People will have their reactions, because that is what people do, but you don't need to take care of anyone else's feelings but your own.

I hope you get all the support you can manage.


Anne W. - Sep 26, 2011 5:34:41 pm PDT #302 of 30001
The lost sheep grow teeth, forsake their lambs, and lie with the lions.

le nub is wise. It may even be wise to say that there will probably be more on the topic later, but that for now you simply wanted to make sure that people knew.


Ginger - Sep 26, 2011 6:09:35 pm PDT #303 of 30001
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda

Remember, though, that you don't owe anyone an explanation, except those nearest and dearest you've already talked to.


Liese S. - Sep 26, 2011 7:16:00 pm PDT #304 of 30001
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."

Yeah and I would expect some nastiness regardless. But you'll need to get it out there eventually anyway so might as well greet it head on and with dignity from the get go.


le nubian - Sep 26, 2011 7:19:18 pm PDT #305 of 30001
"And to be clear, I am the hell. And the high water."

Liese is right. that's also the reason why I believe in letting one bomb drop at a time. Because of the aforementioned "nastiness", you won't feel great at all the responses to the divorce.

I don't think you want to treble that with baby disclosure just yet. At least *I* wouldn't.

You may be a bolder, braver person than I am.

Here's hoping your FB followers are better than the average bunch.