So...I haven't mentioned this divorce or baby on FB. Because it's too huge and I don't really want to deal with having to give lots of details and lots of "oh, I'm so sorry" and so on. But, if I plan to continue to use FB, which I'd like to, I have to mention it eventually. I want to wait on the baby but mention the divorce now. But it seems easy to get it all out there are once.
Ideas, wise hivemind? Maybe I should just not care? (I was waiting until after my SILs wedding but I still haven't gotten around to mentioning it, I've noticed.)
mention the divorce now.
delay the baby for a bit. that would be my advice.
I agree. The disclosure process is about what is comfortable for you.
People will have their reactions, because that is what people do, but you don't need to take care of anyone else's feelings but your own.
I hope you get all the support you can manage.
le nub is wise. It may even be wise to say that there will probably be more on the topic later, but that for now you simply wanted to make sure that people knew.
Remember, though, that you don't owe anyone an explanation, except those nearest and dearest you've already talked to.
Yeah and I would expect some nastiness regardless. But you'll need to get it out there eventually anyway so might as well greet it head on and with dignity from the get go.
Liese is right. that's also the reason why I believe in letting one bomb drop at a time. Because of the aforementioned "nastiness", you won't feel great at all the responses to the divorce.
I don't think you want to treble that with baby disclosure just yet. At least *I* wouldn't.
You may be a bolder, braver person than I am.
Here's hoping your FB followers are better than the average bunch.
Here's hoping your FB followers are better than the average bunch.
And you know what? If they aren't? Drop 'em. Times like this is when you find out who is worth including in your lfe, and who isn't.
I like the way you think.
Word to what javachik and le nubian said.
I was exhausted and then started reading, and finished the damn book, and now I've missed my falling-asleep window. Foo. Hope the next one comes soon. It felt good to disappear into a book, though, it was a hectic day with more to come.
Can I just say that Nora and Tom saved my ass, once again? They graciously let me come do an emergency load of laundry at their house on no notice whatsoever, since it was too late to go to my laundromat, and finish my slides there. And even tolerated my exclamations of frustration over formatting, and read over my slides to make sure they didn't totally suck. I think I owe y'all a nice dinner somewhere, Nora.
