It's "distressed."
Tell me more good stuff about me.
Kaylee ,'The Message'
Spike's Bitches 47: Someone Dangerous Could Get In
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Zenkitty - Apr 11, 2013 5:08:14 pm PDT #28630 of 30001
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
askye - Apr 11, 2013 5:15:36 pm PDT #28631 of 30001
Thrive to spite them
meara I'm going to echo what people said about finding out if you might have fertility issues.
I'm not having kids but was surprised to find out my Fallopian tubes were defective when I had my tubal done.
Liese S. - Apr 11, 2013 5:22:18 pm PDT #28632 of 30001
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."
I have wondered about my fertility to begin with. I spent five years drinking water that was tainted by uranium mines on the reservation. The infertility rate for teen Navajo girls is much higher in my area than the surrounding populations. But I don't know if I had fertility problems from that if it would just surface as not having kids, or if I'd likely have other, more visible, health problems.
Zenkitty - Apr 11, 2013 5:29:06 pm PDT #28633 of 30001
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
I've wondered about my fertility too. There have been enough times that I could have gotten pregnant and it never happened. My mom and my sister both had trouble conceiving. I figure it wasn't likely to happen even if I wanted it, so it's just as well I didn't.
Cass - Apr 11, 2013 5:46:28 pm PDT #28634 of 30001
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
There definitely should be some kind of uterus/fertility exchange program, so those of us who don't need ours could send it to people who do.
I would have signed up for that a few years ago. Now I am just side-eyeing my uterus and trying to come to a truce. That doesn't involve me attacking it with a spoon.
But if you even maybe want kids, make the appointment and find out the chances now and with technological help. Even if you don't do it, having answers or starting places are good.
Vortex - Apr 11, 2013 7:31:16 pm PDT #28635 of 30001
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
Ugh. Stopped to follow a friend home, was a little worried that she'd had a few glasses if wine. so glad I stopped, because her car got broken into, her wallet and work laptop were taken and she fell apart. Sitting in her apartment waiting for the police. I'm exhausted, but I don't want to leave her.
Cass - Apr 11, 2013 7:38:49 pm PDT #28636 of 30001
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
You are a good, good friend, Vortex.
meara - Apr 11, 2013 9:45:39 pm PDT #28637 of 30001
Wow Vortex, that sucks. But you're a good friend.
Trudy Booth - Apr 12, 2013 5:49:41 am PDT #28638 of 30001
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
However, if I am done with my uterus, I would like it to stop causing me increasingly debilitating pain at increasingly frequent intervals.
Lord, tell me about it. Yesterday I had cramps so violent and, um, explosively technicolor that if I wasn't NGA I'd have sought medical attention. Look, uterus babe, I'm sorry your purpose is going unfulfilled... wasn't my call.
Meara, I'd say research your egg count and whatnot and see if you're a good candidate for laying out the cash to keep your options a little more open.
Good lookin' out, Vortex!
Burrell - Apr 12, 2013 8:36:52 am PDT #28639 of 30001
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
meara, as a data point, I had my kids at 37 & 39, and my OB indicated that there wouldn't have been a problem if I had wanted to continue. But yeah, not sure there's a way to ideally anticipate what you might need in the future.