meara, I was 38 when I had Brendon and 40 with Bobby. I think you have time to make the decision. Of course, with consideration to JZ's questions. Although my sister and mother both had hysterectomies at ages younger than I had kids, but I didn't have the endometriosis that they suffered.
I don't really have a security blanket... unless you count Mr. Pointy.
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Laura - Apr 11, 2013 2:06:57 pm PDT #28620 of 30001
Our wings are not tired.
Cass - Apr 11, 2013 2:20:48 pm PDT #28621 of 30001
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
So the question is: do I try to freeze my eggs? From everything I've read, it's not that crazy a procedure anymore, but the big thing is, it's hella expensive. While I could afford it, it would put a harsh crimp on my emergency funds. And what if I don't meet anyone? Then have I spent five figures on something I don't need? But if I did meet someone and it was too late, how glad would I be that I had some backup? I...just don't know.
If you think you really might want kids and know you probably will be the one carrying the pregnancy, it's really something to think about and research. Yes, really costly. But I assume that a wanted child is worth a lot too. Consider it insurance on having those options later than you might otherwise.
meara - Apr 11, 2013 2:34:09 pm PDT #28622 of 30001
My mom had me at 31, my sis at 35 and bro at 37. But then she had breast cancer at 40, so who knows. My sister is 31 and was doing a work up (mostly not for her own issues) and was told she has the ovaries of someone in her late 30s. So who knows.
sj - Apr 11, 2013 2:37:59 pm PDT #28623 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
meara, I would start by seeing your doctor and see if they can do some tests to find out how many eggs you currently have (it may be more than you think). They'll be able to give you a better idea of how urgently you should be thinking about freezing eggs. Also, you should look into what is covered by your insurance, because it may be more than you think.
smonster - Apr 11, 2013 3:57:09 pm PDT #28624 of 30001
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
meara, that is a super tough decision, and I don't really have wisdom to offer. I wish you discernment!! I'm watching my own biological clock wind down with a mixture of emotions.
Liese S. - Apr 11, 2013 3:59:31 pm PDT #28625 of 30001
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."
Yup, at 37, mine is just about done, and while we are childless by choice, that decision and its results are still hard ones to deal with at any stage.
However, if I am done with my uterus, I would like it to stop causing me increasingly debilitating pain at increasingly frequent intervals.
Connie Neil - Apr 11, 2013 4:04:58 pm PDT #28626 of 30001
brillig
if I am done with my uterus, I would like it to stop causing me increasingly debilitating pain at increasingly frequent intervals.
Yeah! "Hey, freeloader! Knock it off!"
Dana - Apr 11, 2013 4:05:15 pm PDT #28627 of 30001
I'm terrifically busy with my ennui.
There definitely should be some kind of uterus/fertility exchange program, so those of us who don't need ours could send it to people who do.
Zenkitty - Apr 11, 2013 4:49:59 pm PDT #28628 of 30001
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
Steph, your blue elephant is listed on eBay for over a hundred bucks. Just sayin'. Not that I was looking for blue elephants...it just...appeared.
Steph L. - Apr 11, 2013 4:56:01 pm PDT #28629 of 30001
I look more rad than Lutheranism
I'll be damned. That is the same statue. Tim's has some serious cracks, though.