Food is traditional. Maybe organize a few weeks worth from the troupe? Extra help with errands or babysitting, since even divorced that's one less parent?
The King of Cups expects a picnic. But this is not his birthday!
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meara - Apr 03, 2013 7:03:50 pm PDT #28292 of 30001
SuziQ - Apr 03, 2013 7:06:29 pm PDT #28293 of 30001
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame
For Z specifically, maybe a troop project in his honor? Planting a tree/garden or something like that?
SuziQ - Apr 03, 2013 7:07:48 pm PDT #28294 of 30001
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame
Or, maybe do a seed packet project and hand them out so that memories of him are spread around the community?
Aims - Apr 03, 2013 7:09:50 pm PDT #28295 of 30001
Shit's all sorts of different now.
Oooh ... I like both of those ideas. Thank you.
meara - good call.
Burrell - Apr 03, 2013 7:23:59 pm PDT #28296 of 30001
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
Food is traditional.
I was going to say that, although I wouldn't overwhelm the family with meals. I love Suzi's idea of the tree planting. Even simply offering Z a chance to come over and play and escape sadness for a while and be a little girl would be awesome.
Cass - Apr 03, 2013 7:30:36 pm PDT #28297 of 30001
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
Any advice/suggestions?
Food when spread out and not overwhelmed before people can eat it. Pet care. Picking up from school and taking kids to shared after school activities. Little daily things that help without asking something in return. Anything that takes away worry and makes day-to-day life simpler is good.
And I am sorry.
Even simply offering Z a chance to come over and play and escape sadness for a while and be a little girl would be awesome.
Yes, offer small, easy moments to not be actively mourning and grieving. They will, but open arms are amazing. Let them come and play, they'll probably cry but they will also have some joy.
le nubian - Apr 03, 2013 8:51:24 pm PDT #28298 of 30001
"And to be clear, I am the hell. And the high water."
Aims,
one of the things that I think can be forgotten sometimes is that there often is a lot of help immediately when something like this happens, but then support and offers for assistance fade away through time. You may want to line up x,y,z now and then check in with the family and the little girl in a month for a play date or to go to a weekend outing or something.
WindSparrow - Apr 04, 2013 12:51:47 am PDT #28299 of 30001
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
le n, you said exactly what I was going to say.
Trudy Booth - Apr 04, 2013 3:24:50 am PDT #28300 of 30001
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
My Dad was quite against organ donation (and, assumedly donation to science) and I only learned about it once it wasn't really worth asking and talking about. But I wished we'd been able to discuss it so I understood why since I don't believe it was any religious belief on his part.
His objection could simply have been my objection to being cremated, it creeps me the fuck out. I don't care if anyone else does it, but stick me in the ground, please.
Poor Z family! Yeah, food next week. They're lucky they've got you around, Aims.
Steph L. - Apr 04, 2013 3:50:39 am PDT #28301 of 30001
I look more rad than Lutheranism
My Dad was quite against organ donation (and, assumedly donation to science)
My Dad filled out a whole sheaf of papers so his body can be donated to science. Basically, all I have to do when he dies is call a number, and they come get him. It's a little unnerving, but I appreciate the efficiency on their part and the altruism on his part.