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Spike's Bitches 47: Someone Dangerous Could Get In  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Toddson - Jan 09, 2013 8:45:27 am PST #24791 of 30001
Friends don't let friends read "Atlas Shrugged"

With Christmas and New Year's past, can we think out the Easter Bunny?


sj - Jan 09, 2013 10:29:38 am PST #24792 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

My aunt and uncle sent me a save the date for their daughter's wedding. I'm trying to push back that skeptical voice in the back of my head that is saying I only got one because I ran into my uncle at a family event a couple weeks ago, and he remembered I exist. Honestly, when he saw me his jaw dropped like he saw a ghost.


§ ita § - Jan 09, 2013 12:09:20 pm PST #24793 of 30001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.

Maybe his jaw dropped because he was happy to see you. I'm assuming that's why my cousin Wenty's jaw dropped and his eyes popped when I saw him at Christmas. No reason for him to have forgotten I exist, since he hangs out with the rest of the family. But we haven't seen each other in a while, and things change when time passes.

Isn't that normal behaviour for people you haven't seen recently?


sj - Jan 09, 2013 12:25:27 pm PST #24794 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

There wasn't really a smile to go with it that would indicate happiness to see me.


§ ita § - Jan 09, 2013 3:35:24 pm PST #24795 of 30001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.

I'm okay with me just having knocked people agog with the inability to speak for a little. Maybe I'm lying to myself, but who's it harming? I bump into lots of people after years and years of being apart. I see those faces a lot.

My life is too short to attach negativity to them.


Hil R. - Jan 09, 2013 3:59:43 pm PST #24796 of 30001
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l

Everything hurts. I wish it would stop.


sj - Jan 09, 2013 4:17:49 pm PST #24797 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

ita there is a long history of things with my father's side of the family that make it pretty impossible not to attach negativity to these things. Even though I like this cousin a lot, I'm probably going to send a gift and not attend the wedding. When I was at her sister's wedding no one informed me when they were taking all the family pictures. Maybe I shouldn't have allowed myself to be hurt by that either, but I was. I don't need to put myself through that again.

Hil, I'm sorry you're in pain. I hope it eases up for you soon.


Stephanie - Jan 09, 2013 4:21:24 pm PST #24798 of 30001
Trust my rage

When Jose's brother got married, they took a family picture right in front of me without me and the kids. Maybe they wanted just the original family but the brides nieces and nephews were included.


sj - Jan 09, 2013 4:29:17 pm PST #24799 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

Stephanie, all the bride's other cousin's as well as my aunt and uncle disappeared all at once, and it took me a while to figure out that it was for pictures. No one ever said a word to me about it. My dad died 33 years ago, and my family has yet to deal with it. They sort of just pretend he never existed, which makes acknowledging that I am a legitimate part of the family hard for them. I shouldn't say all of them; I do have one uncle that is pretty good about remembering that I am his brother's daughter.


Hil R. - Jan 09, 2013 5:06:26 pm PST #24800 of 30001
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l

I've been thinking for a while about getting a dog. My lease says,

No pet, animal, bird or other pet will be kept on the premises, even temporarily, without written permission from Landlord or Agent. If written permission is granted, the Tenant agrees to pay the cost of having the dwelling de-fleaed and de-ticked by a professional exterminator at the termination of occupancy. Tenant expressly agrees and understands that Landlord's permission may be conditional upon an additional deposit to be paid prior to the pet being kept on the leased premises.

How should I phrase an email to the landlord asking for permission? I don't know yet exactly what kind of dog I'd get, or when -- I don't want to start looking until I know that I'll be allowed to get one.