Mal ,'Serenity'
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Smoking is an addiction. A physical as well as psychological addiction. Do you think it's easy for a user to kick heroin or painkillers, too? Much as you may want to, it doesn't mean it's something you can do on a dime. I'm pretty sure you know that, too.
Harder, as I recall, to quit than heroin. I was lucky, and could just stop. Most people can't. It doesn't work that way.
Some people can quit smoking just because they decide to but not everyone.
Some alcoholics can decide to quit drinking and never drink again. But not everyone.
It's unrealistic to treat addiction to nicotine differently than any other addiction.
I don't know, a well-placed word might help. But, if smonster's family is like mine, they might have problems with the well-placed part.
Did that message feel well placed to you, Erika?
I love you both dearly. I know it’s hard to quit, but please stop smoking and/or don’t start back up again!
And the subject line? "Just sayin'".
While he's factually accurate about it being hard to quit, I have a feeling that receiving that email would result in me buying and smoking a pack of clove cigs. And I don't smoke.
Kinda snotty. Judgemental.(My brother gets like that, too.) Also, sometimes it seems like all men just want to tell all women we're wrong. Not saying this about men here, but there are definitely days when it's like "If I get anymore crap from one more dude today..." Everyone has bad habits. Some are more deadly than others...I also might have to post Keith Olbermann's column about the week before he got a benign mouth tumor removed...Keith has an eye for details, I'll just say that.
Also, sometimes it seems like all men just want to tell all women we're wrongI dunno, I'm afraid I'd have to dis...... crap. Just proved the hypothesis.
:: sulks away::
(Hey, if ya can't have a sense of humor in a heated conversation, when can ya??)
I've never smoked, but I know what it feels like when some Very Concerned Person tells me I should lose weight. It makes me angry and despondent and insulted, and kinda makes me want to eat comfort food. As if that never occurred to me until my personal savior came up and pointed out how I was destroying my body and shortening my life span.
Also, sometimes it seems like all men just want to tell all women we're wrong
Can't argue with that, but there are plenty of women, too, who get off on telling other people what to do. Like "being concerned" and "just wanting to help" makes my business their business.
Yeah, plenty of Mrs. Kravitz types out there.
I think it's different when it's someone you have a relationship with rather than a stranger. I don't like hearing comments about my health habits from ANYONE, but I feel it's different when it's a personal concern for ME rather than a generalized comment on behavior.
I know when my dad took up smoking again after his first near-fatal heart attack and I found out, I was furious and I really yelled at him. Even as I did it, I knew it wasn't going to change anything, but the fear, the frustration and the anger of watching someone you love killing themselves in front of you can be overwhelming and hard to fight. My dad did eventually quit and we got another seven years with him which is wonderful--although my tantrum had nothing to do with it.