I don't know, a well-placed word might help. But, if smonster's family is like mine, they might have problems with the well-placed part.

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Did that message feel well placed to you, Erika?

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I love you both dearly. I know it’s hard to quit, but please stop smoking and/or don’t start back up again!

And the subject line? "Just sayin'".

While he's factually accurate about it being hard to quit, I have a feeling that receiving that email would result in me buying and smoking a pack of clove cigs. And I don't smoke.

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Kinda snotty. Judgemental.(My brother gets like that, too.) Also, sometimes it seems like all men just want to tell all women we're wrong. Not saying this about men here, but there are definitely days when it's like "If I get anymore crap from one more dude today..." Everyone has bad habits. Some are more deadly than others...I also might have to post Keith Olbermann's column about the week before he got a benign mouth tumor removed...Keith has an eye for details, I'll just say that.

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Also, sometimes it seems like all men just want to tell all women we're wrong

I dunno, I'm afraid I'd have to dis...... crap. Just proved the hypothesis.

:: sulks away::

(Hey, if ya can't have a sense of humor in a heated conversation, when can ya??)

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I've never smoked, but I know what it feels like when some Very Concerned Person tells me I should lose weight. It makes me angry and despondent and insulted, and kinda makes me want to eat comfort food. As if that never occurred to me until my personal savior came up and pointed out how I was destroying my body and shortening my life span.

Also, sometimes it seems like all men just want to tell all women we're wrong

Can't argue with that, but there are plenty of women, too, who get off on telling other people what to do. Like "being concerned" and "just wanting to help" makes my business their business.

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Yeah, plenty of Mrs. Kravitz types out there.

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I think it's different when it's someone you have a relationship with rather than a stranger. I don't like hearing comments about my health habits from ANYONE, but I feel it's different when it's a personal concern for ME rather than a generalized comment on behavior.

I know when my dad took up smoking again after his first near-fatal heart attack and I found out, I was furious and I really yelled at him. Even as I did it, I knew it wasn't going to change anything, but the fear, the frustration and the anger of watching someone you love killing themselves in front of you can be overwhelming and hard to fight. My dad did eventually quit and we got another seven years with him which is wonderful--although my tantrum had nothing to do with it.

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K-Bug's new boyfriend chews (but doesn't spit and I REALLY don't want to know how that works). Anyway, it felt like he was trying to hide it and I gently called him out on it - both chewing and hiding - but told him it was my requisite one nag and I'd try hard not to bug him cause he is an adult and can make his own choices.

Kinda on that thought - this week is going to be interesting. He lives a couple of hours away but works near us, so he is staying with us for a few days. Yes, he asked my permission first. I told him that as long as K-Bug is ok with it and he chips in for food (and basic clean up), then we can give it a go. Am I crazy for agreeing to this?

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I am usually successful with holding back my smoking comments. Notable exception is my son because he is mine and I claim the right to hassle him daily if I please. Also, a pregnant employee because that bugs me.

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