Anyone have any tips for, um, attracting women?
You are chock full of attractiveness -- your life is wildly interesting, you're funny, you're kind, you're smart, and you're handsome (which doesn't hurt).
Here is my best advice: don't think about it from the POV of "attracting women." Think about it from the POV of wanting to find out what these cool nerd women are like. Someone whose attitude is "I want to get to know you, Other Interesting Person," is WAY more appealing than "I want you to find me attractive!"
I mean, yes, of course you want women to find you attractive. That's *not* a flaw; that's how we're wired. So that's not a bad thing in and of itself. It's just less important than being interested in them.
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That's true for women, too. What's more appealing to you: a woman whose attitude is "Find me attractive!!!" or a woman whose attitude is "Wow, you just had a play produced? Tell me more, Other Interesting Nerd!"?
Don't try too hard! My least favorite thing...makes me think you want to sell me something...
Don't try too hard!
Trying to NOT try too hard SUCKS. Because then you keep wondering "Am I trying too hard? How about now? HOW ABOUT NOW?" and then you spontaneously combust in a bonfire of introspection, stress, and self-doubt.
But, P-C, I think you would look plenty sexy with a haircut like this guy: [link] Not sure the parted-in-the-middle thing does proper justice to your eyes or your pretty pretty hair.
I don't know how to not part in the middle. Isn't that where the part is?
a woman whose attitude is "Wow, you just had a play produced? Tell me more, Other Interesting Nerd!"?
Mostly I am confused and bewildered if a woman appears to be in any way interested in me.
(Also, I am eating a pad Thai omelet AIFG.)
Isn't that where the part is?
Not everyone's hair parts in the middle, I know mine doesn't.
Scrappy again shares her wisdom.
Mostly I am confused and bewildered if a woman appears to be in any way interested in me.
Well, maybe being interested in them will take up so much of your brain that the bewilderment won't have room to take over. Really, I do think trying to adjust your POV will help -- if you go in thinking "Will someone be interested in me?" then when someone is, your bewilderment shows up for the party. But when you go in thinking, "I wonder what interesting nerd women I'll meet?" your focus is more on them and less on what they think of you.
(Also, I am eating a pad Thai omelet AIFG.)
I WANT THIS.
I don't mean to give people stress after stress...I just meant, I don't know, you're trying to meet people...not sell them Polter-Flakes. I would agree that being interested and trying to listen would help.
