Anya ,'Bring On The Night'
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
I don't know how to not part in the middle. Isn't that where the part is?
a woman whose attitude is "Wow, you just had a play produced? Tell me more, Other Interesting Nerd!"?
Mostly I am confused and bewildered if a woman appears to be in any way interested in me.
(Also, I am eating a pad Thai omelet AIFG.)
Isn't that where the part is?
Not everyone's hair parts in the middle, I know mine doesn't.
Scrappy again shares her wisdom.
Mostly I am confused and bewildered if a woman appears to be in any way interested in me.
Well, maybe being interested in them will take up so much of your brain that the bewilderment won't have room to take over. Really, I do think trying to adjust your POV will help -- if you go in thinking "Will someone be interested in me?" then when someone is, your bewilderment shows up for the party. But when you go in thinking, "I wonder what interesting nerd women I'll meet?" your focus is more on them and less on what they think of you.
(Also, I am eating a pad Thai omelet AIFG.)
I WANT THIS.
I don't mean to give people stress after stress...I just meant, I don't know, you're trying to meet people...not sell them Polter-Flakes. I would agree that being interested and trying to listen would help.
I don't mean to give people stress after stress...
I didn't think you were. It's also good advice to relax in situations like that, but I think as soon as you decide to relax, you start thinking "Am I relaxed? How about now? HOW ABOUT NOW???" and you rapidly Hulk out, which is kind of the opposite of relaxed.
But then I am a very tense person, so I don't understand people who can relax on command. (My reaction when someone tells me to relax is to want to punch them, which is, I think, not their desired result.)
not sell them Polter-Flakes.
Fine, fine, I will definitely shampoo tomorrow!
But bring your Honey-Roasted Polter Crunch.
No, I have no idea what that means.
For sure bring your Polter Krispies; that way you will snap, crackle, and pop!
Well, it's true...it's also true that it would be easier to look at footage of an encounter going right and say "like that," than describe what some of those things are like."Relax..." is trite and not-helpful though...you're right. Maybe staying in the moment? Because I know sometimes I meet someone cool and either I start planning our relationship...or picturing how wrecked I'll be when they don't call, or are secretly ableist bigots, or whatever...