Ugh, I am not the first spouse on this board to go through this. Why am I taking over the place with my drama?
Dude, I've inadvertently taken over Bitches with roommate drama for two days. Please don't feel bad. This is a safe place for you.
Occasionally I'm callous and strange.
Willow ,'The Killer In Me'
Natter 68: Bork Bork Bork
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
smonster - Sep 09, 2011 5:02:38 pm PDT #25244 of 30001
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
Hil R. - Sep 09, 2011 5:03:09 pm PDT #25245 of 30001
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
Also, dude, totally. You are not taking over the board with your drama. You are doing what you're supposed to do, which is *use your support systems* -- that's us, and your family, and your other friends.
You absolutely can fall apart when you need to. You can give yourself time and space to do that. If you feel like you can't or don't want to now, that's fine, too, but you do not need to have permission to react any way you have to.
What Liese said.
sarameg - Sep 09, 2011 5:06:32 pm PDT #25246 of 30001
Do NOT begrudge yourself asking for help, venting or whatever, damnit! And missy, this does not qualify as drama. This is stupid life. We all share it here, good and bad. And the collective experience can work for you, and anyone else who has to go through this or the annoyance of stepping in cat barf.
Please call me if you need to. If I'm home and see the CID, will definitely answer. (Yeah, PITA me and not using the cell.)
Maria - Sep 09, 2011 5:06:55 pm PDT #25247 of 30001
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
I am airing my dirty laundry in public. It's like I can't hold water. I just don't want anyone to think that I'm craving this attention.
I'm the wrong kind of energy monster.
Wherever I need to take him to get the best treatment, I will. I'm so grateful that there will be friends just about anywhere we'd possibly be going.
Plei, I know. I'm being childish. I'd love to be able to wish this all away.
brenda m - Sep 09, 2011 5:07:07 pm PDT #25248 of 30001
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
Because you're the one going through it now. And I can tell you, from experience, that this is one place - maybe *the* one place - where you can say what you need to and let go of being the strong one, even if it's just for a minute. So rage if you need to, weep if you need to. You won't hurt us.
javachik - Sep 09, 2011 5:10:44 pm PDT #25249 of 30001
Our wings are not tired.
Soak the love up, Maria. Absorb us. And call me again if you need to.
Maria - Sep 09, 2011 5:14:18 pm PDT #25250 of 30001
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
It's all so goddamned unfair. And I can't get past my sense of justice to understand that bad things can happen to good people. Sure, everyone makes mistakes, but what mistake deserves this?
I'm so tired. I try to do everything right, and this is what I get?
quester - Sep 09, 2011 5:14:46 pm PDT #25251 of 30001
Danger is my middle name, only I spell it R. u. t. h. - Tina Belcher.
Maria, this place exists to be here for you. Use us any way you need to.
hippocampus - Sep 09, 2011 5:17:54 pm PDT #25252 of 30001
not your mom's socks.
Maria, we're in Philly if you end up at Penn. Lots of room here.
Also, my DH has some resources in the melanoma research community - I'm sending you an email this weekend.
{{Maria}}
Zenkitty - Sep 09, 2011 5:18:24 pm PDT #25253 of 30001
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
Oh, Maria. I'm so sorry.