Why am I taking over the place with my drama?

You're no drama queen, missy! We all know what that looks like and it doesn't look like you.

This is the real deep shit. And you're in it. And we're here.

Don't ever excuse yourself for calling on us. It's a privilege.

Ugh, I am not the first spouse on this board to go through this. Why am I taking over the place with my drama?

Dude, I've inadvertently taken over Bitches with roommate drama for two days. Please don't feel bad. This is a safe place for you.

Also, dude, totally. You are not taking over the board with your drama. You are doing what you're supposed to do, which is *use your support systems* -- that's us, and your family, and your other friends.

You absolutely can fall apart when you need to. You can give yourself time and space to do that. If you feel like you can't or don't want to now, that's fine, too, but you do not need to have permission to react any way you have to.

What Liese said.

Do NOT begrudge yourself asking for help, venting or whatever, damnit! And missy, this does not qualify as drama. This is stupid life. We all share it here, good and bad. And the collective experience can work for you, and anyone else who has to go through this or the annoyance of stepping in cat barf.

Please call me if you need to. If I'm home and see the CID, will definitely answer. (Yeah, PITA me and not using the cell.)

I am airing my dirty laundry in public. It's like I can't hold water. I just don't want anyone to think that I'm craving this attention.

I'm the wrong kind of energy monster.

Wherever I need to take him to get the best treatment, I will. I'm so grateful that there will be friends just about anywhere we'd possibly be going.

Plei, I know. I'm being childish. I'd love to be able to wish this all away.

Because you're the one going through it now. And I can tell you, from experience, that this is one place - maybe *the* one place - where you can say what you need to and let go of being the strong one, even if it's just for a minute. So rage if you need to, weep if you need to. You won't hurt us.

Soak the love up, Maria. Absorb us. And call me again if you need to.

It's all so goddamned unfair. And I can't get past my sense of justice to understand that bad things can happen to good people. Sure, everyone makes mistakes, but what mistake deserves this?

I'm so tired. I try to do everything right, and this is what I get?

Maria, this place exists to be here for you. Use us any way you need to.

Maria, we're in Philly if you end up at Penn. Lots of room here.

Also, my DH has some resources in the melanoma research community - I'm sending you an email this weekend.

{{Maria}}