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'Lies My Parents Told Me'
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Spidra Webster - Nov 29, 2010 4:20:47 pm PST #9769 of 30000
I wish I could just go somewhere to get flensed but none of the whaling ships near me take Medicare.
beth b - Nov 29, 2010 4:21:20 pm PST #9770 of 30000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
P-C, I have my own feelings about how you should be handling all this, but you don't need my feelings.
But I will say I haven't heard you say more than " yes, I'd like a girlfriend" While you might get lucky, the odds of finding a wife when the whole idea makes you crazy -- are slim. and not fair to you . Go to the Indian events, but go to your cons and work things and other friend things. Meet lots of friends, date a little -- until the idea of a wife is your idea. which might happen after you meet her.
quester - Nov 29, 2010 4:22:10 pm PST #9771 of 30000
Danger is my middle name, only I spell it R. u. t. h. - Tina Belcher.
Kermit waves to Spidra!
DavidS - Nov 29, 2010 4:27:31 pm PST #9772 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
But wait, let me ask a question of the hive. Has anyone ever done everything 'right' in the eyes of a parent, lover, etc. and then enjoyed endless peace in the family?
Of course, not. Because if you don't enforce that boundary of separation from parent to child then they will treat you even more like a child.
P-C this is the most important thing ever to them, until you concede to their wishes and then the most important thing will when and how you have children and where you rear them and what school they go to. And so on.
beekaytee - Nov 29, 2010 4:42:09 pm PST #9773 of 30000
Compassionately intolerant
P-C this is the most important thing ever to them, until you concede to their wishes and then the most important thing will when and how you have children and where you rear them and what school they go to. And so on.
IJS.
Volans - Nov 29, 2010 5:15:11 pm PST #9774 of 30000
move out and draw fire
It also sounds like they are training you and your brother and sister to be "disappointments" to them, so that they will always have something to criticize you guys for and keep you dependent...but they are carefully keeping you just on this side of the disownage line.
You can't make them happy. They don't want you to.
beekaytee - Nov 29, 2010 5:18:07 pm PST #9775 of 30000
Compassionately intolerant
You can't make them happy. They don't want you to.
Again, with the killer wisdom.
Spidra Webster - Nov 29, 2010 5:18:56 pm PST #9776 of 30000
I wish I could just go somewhere to get flensed but none of the whaling ships near me take Medicare.
And I wish I'd had Buffistas to speak sooth like this to me 30 years ago...
erikaj - Nov 29, 2010 5:32:20 pm PST #9777 of 30000
Always Anti-fascist!
BTDT.
WindSparrow - Nov 29, 2010 5:42:24 pm PST #9778 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Has anyone ever done everything 'right' in the eyes of a parent, lover, etc. and then enjoyed endless peace in the family?
The closest I've ever gotten was the exact opposite. Cutting off by moving two time zones away. According to my sister, our mother speaks of me as the blessed one. Which is just puzzling to me, because I'm the one who doesn't bother to go to church anymore, and I rarely call her. Of course, it's a lot easier to love someone who isn't talking back to you. So maybe that's the secret. People ask me how often I go back to visit - and the answer is, not in over ten years. I don't miss my mother's craxy. But I resent the hell out of the fact that having to escape her craxy meant not getting to be there to watch my nephews and niece grow up.
ETA: And I'm thankful as all get-out for Daniel's mom, she's the best MiL ever (even if it's not official). It's also one of the reasons I miss Ray so much.