What makes you sad about it?
I'll always love him. The idea of him being alone and miserable is too awful.
Fred: So you don't worry that it's possible for someone to send out a biological or electronic trigger that effectively overrides your own sense of ideals and values and replaces them with an alternative coercive agenda that reduces you to a mindless meat puppet? Shopkeeper: Wow. People used to think that I was paranoid.
'Time Bomb'
Spike's Bitches 46: Don't I get a cookie?
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Laga - Nov 17, 2010 11:39:43 am PST #8770 of 30000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
beekaytee - Nov 17, 2010 11:39:51 am PST #8771 of 30000
Compassionately intolerant
I told him I was very depressed that day, that it was the most depressed and upset I'd been in years, and he could borrow my car if he wanted but I wasn't going to drive him there. He got all mad and told me that in the future he wasn't going to be as indulgent to what I wanted anymore.
Oh my lawerd. This feels too familiar.
When K was in town in October, smack in the middle of the great Pneumonia that-nearly-took-me-out,she spent 3 days 6 blocks from me but couldn't make time to visit...until the one day I had clients. The headline of that long weekend became, Bonny Couldn't Squeeze Me In.
Okay. I'm over it. Kate is right. I have made up my mind. I would never had left someone hanging like she did, much less when they could really have used some support.
My advice request was about how to say goodbye without being a jerk about it and in diplomatic enough terms that a defensive person can hear. However, while I would like to do it well, I guess there is no way to do it perfectly.
Laga - Nov 17, 2010 11:42:02 am PST #8772 of 30000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
I don't think you owe her a goodbye. And if you just let the relationship trail off maybe in a couple years you can reconnect and it will be better.
beekaytee - Nov 17, 2010 11:43:11 am PST #8773 of 30000
Compassionately intolerant
I'll always love him. The idea of him being alone and miserable is too awful.
Aw, Hon...I'm sorry. It's good of you to care so much and, once again, I hope his choices aren't based in misery. In my experience, alone doesn't have to be miserable.
In any case, I hope there is another explanation that is less painful for you.
Barb - Nov 17, 2010 11:45:42 am PST #8774 of 30000
“Not dead yet!”
Has anyone wished our beauteous Jilli a happy birthday in Bitches today??
beekaytee - Nov 17, 2010 11:48:23 am PST #8775 of 30000
Compassionately intolerant
Oh my STARS and garters! Happy BatBirthday, Jilli!
tommyrot - Nov 17, 2010 11:48:38 am PST #8776 of 30000
Sir, it's not an offence to let your cat eat your bacon. Okay? And we don't arrest cats, I'm very sorry.
Birthday Happies Jilli!!!
Laga - Nov 17, 2010 11:48:56 am PST #8777 of 30000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
Hippo Birdies, Jilli!
Scrappy - Nov 17, 2010 11:52:27 am PST #8778 of 30000
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
Happy bat and chocolate-filled birthday to the splindiferous Jilli!
hippocampus - Nov 17, 2010 12:02:06 pm PST #8779 of 30000
not your mom's socks.
Happy Birthday Jilli!