Sweetie, you know I love you, but if anyone will make your life hard for you, I'll have to come and beat the living shit out of them.
Even if it's you.
But in that case, I'll try and use words first.
I was under the impression that I was your big comfy blanky.
Oz ,'Him'
Spike's Bitches 46: Don't I get a cookie?
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Shir - Oct 12, 2010 5:13:31 am PDT #5606 of 30000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
Seska (the Watcher-in-Training) - Oct 12, 2010 5:26:12 am PDT #5607 of 30000
"We're all stories, in the end. Just make it a good one, eh?"
You're so thoughtful.
Volans - Oct 12, 2010 5:46:24 am PDT #5608 of 30000
move out and draw fire
Congrats, Shir!
So, in addition to making you feel crappy on your birthday, does OKCupid send out "still single?" emails on National Coming Out day?
Shir - Oct 12, 2010 5:49:36 am PDT #5609 of 30000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
I feel as if the next stage for OKCupid passive-aggressive emails will be sending "still single?" emails on the birthdays of you father, mother, exes, and people you dated with in the past.
Just being thorough.
tommyrot - Oct 12, 2010 5:52:51 am PDT #5610 of 30000
Sir, it's not an offence to let your cat eat your bacon. Okay? And we don't arrest cats, I'm very sorry.
I think they'll branch out into target advertising.
"Still single? Here's a coupon for 40% off of Smirnoff Vodka!"
Shir - Oct 12, 2010 5:55:26 am PDT #5611 of 30000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
"Still single? Here's our 50% off coupon for first session with one of our recommended shrinks!"
(Because if you can't find anyone, of course a. there's a problem and b. that is you).
erikaj - Oct 12, 2010 6:13:25 am PDT #5612 of 30000
Always Anti-fascist!
I felt like sending a message back..."Yes, because your people are weird in all the wrong ways. Kisses." Seska, I have nothing but BTDT...hope you handle it better than I do.(And of course, the annoying one is always the hardest worker/wants more hours...it's a rule.)
Vortex - Oct 12, 2010 6:21:29 am PDT #5613 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
But I feel terrible about firing her. She's so earnest and trying so hard, and she's in a complicated personal situation at the moment which I would be making worse by ending her contract. Any advice welcome! (I'm delighted with how well the other one is working out, so the situation could definitely be a lot worse.)
Well, I have two suggestions. After she has done something well, sit her down and explain what your issues are and how you would like them to be resolved. That way, it feels less like criticism and more like a discussion.
Or (or perhaps also), tell her that she is not working out, but you appreciate her hard work. Suggest that perhaps you are not explaining things well*, and then ask her to take a few hours to come to the house while your other PA is there to watch how the two of you work together to give her a clear example of how things need to be.
* I know damned well that you are explaining fine, but sometimes you gotta give a little to get a little.
WindSparrow - Oct 12, 2010 7:30:11 am PDT #5614 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Worked double shift, got home at 7:30 this morning. Thinking supportive thoughts to all those here who are having a tough time.
Seska, I don't understand how a PCA who is working for you can have the audacity to tell you that your philosophy is wrong. As I am in a not entirely different field, I am astounded. When my bosses tell me what philosophy they hold for our work, I figure it is my duty to incorporate that into my own attitude and approach to the work I do. To the extent that I do not subscribe to those same philosophies, I suck it up and do the best I can to work with it anyway. It is her job to fit her attitudes and philosophies to your expectations. And although the situation is rather personal, it is wrong for her to let her personal problems become a burden for you. I'm sorry you are in this position.
Seska (the Watcher-in-Training) - Oct 12, 2010 9:38:48 am PDT #5615 of 30000
"We're all stories, in the end. Just make it a good one, eh?"
Thanks for the good advice, all. I'm going to give it a few more days, just to see if we can work on things, but if it doesn't I'll let her go, rather than letting it stress me out beyond that. As The Girl reminded me on the phone today, this is exactly why I have a probationary period in my contracts.