Much time~ma for your friend, Scrappy.
amyth, plan~ma for your situation at work. Does not sound fun. Wishing you lots of other opportunities soon.
So, I have a PA situation. The brand new one is fantastic, and we're going to get along fine. The one I recruited earlier is proving very difficult. She hasn't done anything particularly wrong - we just have a major clash of styles. When I raised one element of the way she works that I wanted her to reconsider, she seemed exceptionally offended and upset (although I told her not to take it as criticism but more as a constructive suggestion for a better working relationship), and she wouldn't accept my explanation of the cause of the problem (which was mostly just irritating - if you're a PA for someone who trains people in independent living, you don't tell that person that their philosophy on the subject is wrong). She stresses me out immensely, which is purely a personality thing, but that's still important when she's spending up to 12 hours a week in my house and she's the first person I see every morning. I can't see it working out. But I feel terrible about firing her. She's so earnest and trying so hard, and she's in a complicated personal situation at the moment which I would be making worse by ending her contract. Any advice welcome! (I'm delighted with how well the other one is working out, so the situation could definitely be a lot worse.)
Sorry, Seska, but I have no advice other than if it doesn't work, it doesn't work - and none of you should suffer for it, in any way.
ION - who's up and willing to check grammar and wording in a short email in English? I'm afraid I'm too tired to write anything right.
I'm about, Shir, if you still need help.
Cool, it has yet to arrive in my inbox. Israel is very far away though, maybe it stopped to have a rest.
I sent it to your profile addy. Should I have sent it elsewhere?
Nope, that's fine, it just took a while to arrive. I've sent it back using my work email though, just so I look worky from across the office...
Seska, sorry, hon, but it's not your responsibility to caretake her life. Cut her free, tell her you will give her a good rec, so she CAN find something that will work with her personality.
Why would you keep an added stressor to the ones you already have (HELLO, moving and new doctoral program), esp. when the person is supposed to relieve stress?
So it might make her personal situation harder. If you keep her, you will be PAYING her to make YOUR personal situation harder.
You are a nice person. Don't forget to be nice to yourself.
Thanks, Jars!
Seska - listen to Erin. Erin is wise.
I am already home with a migraine. Come on, body, play nice now. We have Things To Do.
Erin, that is all very good advice.
You are a nice person. Don't forget to be nice to yourself.
That is all too easy to forget. Thank you.
