due to my carefully calibrated beer drinking and booty shaking regimen last night. It's a bit sore still, but more like stiff/tight muscle, not ouchy/spasm-y/searing pain. YAY.

Ahahahaha. We should become yoga buddies. Or just go dancing more.

Thanks again for the support. As I said to Nora last night, maybe I just scared her with talk of her finding another place. I don't give a shit, as long as she stays civil.

Happy birthday, Nora!

I also started taking some Chinese herbal supplement for lower back health yesterday, maybe that figured into things? Probably not but I'm all about the magical thinking and placebo effect if it takes the pain away.

Me too. What supplement is it?

Happy Birthday, Nora!!! I'm glad your back is feeling a little better.

I definitely have a uti. I also got my flu shot while I was there.

Teppy, do I have to avoid alcohol on cipro?

Thanks again for the support. As I said to Nora last night, maybe I just scared her with talk of her finding another place.

I think she did not communicate well with you AT ALL and is probably not good long-term roommate material. I also commend you for thinking about how your own behavior contributed to the impasses you guys went through. We all have to deal with people who are damaged or opaque or just temporarily preoccupied and it's good to learn from mis-steps, which is hard but exactly what I think you were doing. So, go you!

This next part isn't about you, smonster, but what you just went through touched on something I've been feeling for a while. I think that support in Bitches sometimes spills over into demonizing whoever or whatever makes a Buffista feel bad, and that can hinder getting to a healthy place. I think we all need a reality check sometimes and sometimes it seems to me that we (Buffistas) fail to do that.

It's hard, I know, as lots of times a person just needs to vent and a reality check is the completely wrong thing. Sometimes, though, people are struggling with emotions or figuring out a situation and simple validation may not be the most helpful choice.

What do you think, Bitches? Am I off the mark?

Happy birthday, Nora!

What do you think, Bitches? Am I off the mark?

No, I think you're right. Whoever's in opposition to someone posting here does tend to be 100% in the wrong, sometimes with very colourful language. Sometimes it helps, because steam needs to be blown off, but sometimes it stops you from being able to see what's going on, and own your own stuff.

Sometimes it helps, because steam needs to be blown off, but sometimes it stops you from being able to see what's going on, and own your own stuff.

Yes. Sometimes it seems like "um, dude, check yourself before you wreck yourself" would be harsh, given everyone saying 'OMG EvilPerson is EVIL!" and sometimes it starts to feel like you have to go there given all teh EVIL. ...on the other hand, some people are Tino. :) And sometimes you just want to vent and have support.

[ETA: I don't actually have any specific situation in mind, and certainly don't mean smonster and the roomie]

Scrappy, I can see what you are saying. However, I also know people have been hurt in the past by advice when they were only looking for validation and hairpats. So, I guess it depends on the situation and the person. I am personally fine with the theory that Buffistas are wise and the rest of the world is wrong headed.

There's a reason "Scrappy is wise" is an oft-used phrase around here, at least IMO.