I think if it were done that way, it would genuinely be looked at as helpful. I'm just ... overly sensitive cause I'm still sick and my house was messy and the dog was barking and blah blah blah. I know that if Joe and I had received a nice package like that with those coupons, I'd be all over it.
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Aims - Jul 07, 2011 4:56:05 pm PDT #24931 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.
DavidS - Jul 07, 2011 4:58:57 pm PDT #24932 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
would think we were just passive aggressive busy bodies. :(
I would interpret that gesture as "We're super anal about our neighborhood and you are a constant source of irritation and annoyance to us." Also they're probably sleep deprived and a bit overwhelmed with parenting and not focused on yardwork.
I don't know - some people might welcome that gesture but I would hate it.
And really, the gesture seems to be motivated more by Erinn's upset and how it makes the neighborhood look than giving them a hand.
javachik - Jul 07, 2011 4:59:06 pm PDT #24933 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
I know that if Joe and I had received a nice package like that with those coupons, I'd be all over it.
Really? 'cause if that's true, I want to do it. I am pretty sure it's the overwhelmingness of new baby that is keeping the couple from garden stuff. But I can say that I'd also like to just get to know them, especially now that we'll be neighbors for a good long while. Thanks for the feedback. I just don't want to be a jerk.
ETA:
I would interpret that gesture as "We're super anal about our neighborhood and you are a constant source of irritation and annoyance to us."
Really? That's extreme. No one has said it's a constant source of irritation and annoyance. We're saying we're bummed that a really beautiful garden has been overtaken with weeds. And we're not telling them to do anything about it, we're offering to do it ourselves.
Ginger - Jul 07, 2011 5:09:24 pm PDT #24934 of 30000
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
I fear I would be Hec in this. I would assume I was driving the neighborhood crazy.
Aims - Jul 07, 2011 5:10:29 pm PDT #24935 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.
Really. You guys are acknowledging the fact that they are new parents and that gardening has fallen way down on the list of priorities for them, which is typical and totally justified. The fact that you guys want to help them and not just be "Clean up your shit." I would have welcomed it. My mom used to do that for our neighbors when they had new babies. She loved to garden and loved being able to help out that way so that it was one less thing they needed to worry about.
The fact that it helps the neighborhood and Erinn, just makes it win-win.
Aims - Jul 07, 2011 5:14:39 pm PDT #24936 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.
I would say to make up a nice basket, maybe with some wine - my brother and sister-in-law got some bottles called "Mommy's Night Out Chardonnay" and a "Daddy" kind, too that they loved. A card for the baby, maybe a gift card to Target or a food place, and the coupons. If they don't take you guys up on it, then it gets wierd if they get bugged about it, but I would say it would be taken as a very nice gesture.
Cass - Jul 07, 2011 5:16:51 pm PDT #24937 of 30000
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
Let's be honest, either side here is going to be hurt. I mean, we jump on whichever side is presented (currently I feel awful for Aims but I totally think it'd be a nice gesture from javachik) because, hey, friends but both sides are valid and I don't think it's a situation where there is any easy answer.
javachik - Jul 07, 2011 5:19:07 pm PDT #24938 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
I think we'll do the wine and basket/card thing and then I'll mention to them that I usually spend Sundays doing yard work and it would be no trouble at all do cover theirs while I'm at it or something. Like I said, E's been to their house and is on fine terms. The issue hasn't been brought up at all precisely because we don't want to hurt feelings or make someone who's probably overwhelmed with new baby feel any more overwhelmed.
Connie Neil - Jul 07, 2011 5:19:41 pm PDT #24939 of 30000
brillig
In the continuing story of "Weight lifting is the key to me getting in shape, who knew?" . . .
I was scratching a mosquito bite on my side, and it dawned on me that my side felt odd. And I realized--that's a corner I'm feeling. Not the continuous curve that has been my torso for decades, but an actual muscle edge. I ran my fingers along it disbelief for nearly a minute before I stopped myself.
Connie Neil - Jul 07, 2011 5:25:24 pm PDT #24940 of 30000
brillig
re: the neighbors, I'm expecting them to say, "Oh, don't bother about the garden, we're going to pull that out and put in grass because all that planting is too hard to take care of."
(I'm not a gardener. It all looks pretty and I appreciate the work people put into it, but I'm too inherently lazy to do it.)