So the question is really the answer, then?

There is another choice, between suppressing and succumbing to the spoiled brat we all have: validation. Acknowledge it, and then do it anyway. Sometimes it helps to have a conversation with your inner child, like learning to parent yourself well. I know for myself that if I ignore or tamp down on an emotion, it just tends to pop back up and smack me in the face harder.

Frank, check out the VITALS strategy: [link] It's been very helpful for me in learning to do things I don't want to. You don't have to do all the steps, and some will probably work better for you than others.

Trifecta:

Also, Frank, feel free to ignore my advice or tell me to shove it. I'm just sharing things that have worked for me, because it seems we have similar issues. I won't take it personally if it's not helpful or wanted.

Rain seems to be in a lull. Off to run errands.

smonster, feel free to use our internet or water for whatever. You can take your container there for potable water, if you like. When is Ray coming over?

I'll admit, I've never understood the concept of rewarding yourself for doing unpleasant tasks. It works with kids (if it does!) because a kid doesn't get to decide if he gets a candy or gets to go play; his grown-up can withhold the treat until the task is done. But I'm a grown-up. If I want a cupcake or long hot bubblebath, I'll have it. A reward is something you wouldn't have gotten otherwise. Are there people who are actually withholding good things from themselves because they think they haven't earned them?

The only way I see this working is encouraging myself to save money by planning to spend some of it on something I otherwise couldn't have afforded, but saving up for a trip to the Grand Canyon isn't the same thing as letting myself have a donut because I cleaned off my desk. Maybe I'm just not wired into a task/reward structure that works for other people.

But I'm a grown-up. If I want a cupcake or long hot bubblebath, I'll have it.

This is me exactly.

Are there people who are actually withholding good things from themselves because they think they haven't earned them?

And I have wondered the same thing, practically verbatim.

Maybe I'm just not wired into a task/reward structure that works for other people.

I think this is probably it, at least for me. (Or perhaps I am too self-indulgent. Dunno.)

I'm seriously debating keeping a log of day-to-day activities, so I can see where wasted time is coming into play.

I'm totally talking about this in 'Business'.

It's been pretty eye-opening. Not that I didn't know about my procrastination problem. That's why I'm logging, after all, but it has given me a strange boost of energy that I didn't expect.

I'm hoping it actually contributes to my efficiency, sooner rather than later.

It's been pretty eye-opening. Not that I didn't know about my procrastination problem. That's why I'm logging, after all, but it has given me a strange boost of energy that I didn't expect.

I'm hoping it actually contributes to my efficiency, sooner rather than later.

We had so many things to get done before vacation that I printed out a blank month calendar and just assigned things to certain days. Or, really, I'd take a task -- clean off dining room table, for instance -- and write it over several days, so that I had wiggle room, and if I didn't get it done on one specific day, I didn't just ruin my whole schedule.

It worked so well that I need to do the same thing for basic weekly (monthly, etc.) cleaning and other maintenance. That way stuff might actually get done if I have it "scheduled."

t edit Or...do people do that already? Is that a basic aspect of Life As An Adult that I didn't know about?

One thing that NEVER occurred to me to do, but which makes total sense (to me) now that I saw it, was that Tim's mom would keep records of, for instance, holiday dinners -- what size ham, who brought what side dishes, how many people were there, etc. It really has helped Tim's dad now that his mom has passed away, but I have to say, *I* think it's brilliant. I totally need to do that. Er, if we actually hosted large groups, I would.

Is that the kind of thing that was in housekeeping books given to new brides back in the day? I would have badmouthed such a thing as being anti-feminist, but now it just seems like good sense.

We had so many things to get done before vacation that I printed out a blank month calendar and just assigned things to certain days. Or, really, I'd take a task -- clean off dining room table, for instance -- and write it over several days, so that I had wiggle room, and if I didn't get it done on one specific day, I didn't just ruin my whole schedule.

Bravo to you Steph, for the structure _and_ the wiggle room. Way to make it work!

I was just talking to a couple today about scheduling their 'special time.'

It can be difficult to encourage folks past the 'that's a nice idea, we should do it' stage into the 'this is how we are going to do it' stage.

Writing stuff down makes a huge difference.