Tara ,'Get It Done'
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I will papertrail and polite-talk and CC and assertive and legal my way into making the best possible decisions for M and for D and I will do it in such a bloodless and perfect way that you won't know what has hit you. And there won't be a single thing you can do about it, because it will be ruthlessly logical, therapeutically and legally sound and you will look like the crazy, selfish bitch you are.
Now I'm afraid of you E.
This sounds like a perfect strategy and I applaud you for it.
Erin, that was a brilliant rant. I hope it was really good at letting off some steam in this safe place so you could deal with the people involved with the "ruthlessly logical, therapeutically and legally sound" tactics that make up your excellent plan.
"Why would we move to Pennsylvania? You'd just move again."
Did he let her out of the agreement to stay local or just not file a suit? Man, I'd threaten that bitch with a suit hourly.
Of course, I have a temper.
That was a most excellent rant and I believe you plan is a good one.
I will papertrail and polite-talk and CC and assertive and legal my way into making the best possible decisions for M and for D and I will do it in such a bloodless and perfect way that you won't know what has hit you. And there won't be a single thing you can do about it, because it will be ruthlessly logical, therapeutically and legally sound and you will look like the crazy, selfish bitch you are.
This is why I love my fellow Virgos so very much. And why I love Erin so very much.
Bring the righteous Virgo rage on, baby, for it is mighty and fierce so fucking coldly efficient.
A genius rant indeed.
Yes!!! Erin rules.
He let her move to MN, then PA. Her DH DID get a good job in PA, and he's hadn't been able to work in a year, so I GET that.
But us? Homebodies. Stable. Happy here. Finally almost getting on financial feet. D is NOT the bad guy here. M comes back to his own room, kept solely for him. It's HIS room, not storage or anything. HIS. This is the house he lived in for 5 years and where he has always come to visit.
He knows the neighbor kids. He's getting to know my friend's kids who are his age, so he will always have playmates here when he visits. His gram and granpa are in Iowa, with his uncle and cousin. His aunt, uncle and cousin on his mom's side live here (and they're pretty nice.)
This is a pretty decent arrangement for a long-distance arrangement for a child of divorce. I am a pretty damned decent stepmom -- I NEVER trash talk his mom, no matter what, and I never try to supercede his relationship with her -- no matter how I feel about her, she is his MOM, and he loves her, as is right and proper. He goes to half-day camps and plays in the summer, and we go to petting zoos and playdates at the pool and swim and walk the dog, and have watergun fights on the lawn and look at stars at night. It's...ok!
And yeah, thanks for letting me rant. I just needed to be bitchy and ragey and GGRRR so I can approach everything calmly. But I NEEDED to do some inappropriate venting...and I sent D to bed, and he needs me to be logical and calm, not all flipped out and STAB STAB STAB.
As always, thanks, guys.
Did he let her out of the agreement to stay local or just not file a suit?
A stipulation to not move anywhere is pretty rare in a custody arrangement and usually only done by mutual agreement with shared physical custody (50/50). Which is not the case here.
It's not at all common, because it could be used to control your ex-spouse who may want to remarry and relocate etc.
Erin, thanks for that magnificent rant. There's a similar situation going on with not-so-DXDiL, and it's making me crazy. Your justified anger and rational effective planning just make me more determined to be there as much as I can for the kids. And I send you all support thoughts and encouragement.