Yeah, David, D didn't want to be the asshole who had a bitter ex living her trapped rage near him. And MN was only a 7 hour car trip. PA from KC is more fraught, and expensive.
Ugh. I gotta go to bed -- work tomorrow.
Oh, no, oh, no! Spontaneous poetic exclamations. Lord, spare me college boys in love.
Dr. Walsh ,'Potential'
Spike's Bitches 46: Don't I get a cookie?
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Strix - Apr 10, 2011 8:11:53 pm PDT #19517 of 30000
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
DavidS - Apr 10, 2011 8:31:39 pm PDT #19518 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Yeah, David, D didn't want to be the asshole who had a bitter ex living her trapped rage near him.
I don't think it was an option for him anyway. You can't fight it in court and win it. Judges won't put that stipulation in. If there isn't a mutual agreement by both parents, then the court will generally presume the majority of physical custody goes with the mother (usually something like 70/30). The father retains joint legal custody but that just means having a say in schooling, medical matters and religious practice.
Unless D and his ex both agreed to it and specifically agreed to it in the custody arrangement there's no way he would've gotten a stipulation requiring her to stay close.
And this just reflects the reality that most single parents are women and shouldn't be bound by fathers who have absented themselves and aren't helping to raise the kid.
meara - Apr 10, 2011 8:35:30 pm PDT #19519 of 30000
Argh. Why is it Sunday night? It's not even like I anticipate a hugely rough Monday (though now that I've said that...). What can I do to make Monday fun and exciting or something? I had a really good day today, so what to do, what to do...I'm thinking "bright colors", though I'm not sure I have any in my wardrobe! :)
erin_obscure - Apr 10, 2011 8:52:38 pm PDT #19520 of 30000
Occasionally I’m callous and strange
Erin, you are a fantastic stepmom. M is pretty fortunate to have a Dad who loves him so much and a stepmom who is looking out for him. Bless you for balancing out all the self-involvement and craxiness in his other home environment.
Vortex - Apr 10, 2011 9:54:32 pm PDT #19521 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
Erin , you are awesome. That is all.
Seska (the Watcher-in-Training) - Apr 11, 2011 2:28:19 am PDT #19522 of 30000
"We're all stories, in the end. Just make it a good one, eh?"
Erin, I agree with everyone saying you're an incredibly good stepmom. I wish you and your stepson a relationship like the one I have with my dad's partner, where we hang out and talk academia and writing go for coffee and are great friends. I love that. I'm sure your stepson will increasingly feel the same way about you.
This week, apart from writing a (very overdue) book review for an academic journal, I am mostly making funding applications for next year. I would so appreciate some funding~ma. Buffista ~ma is a thing of wondrous awesomeness.
WindSparrow - Apr 11, 2011 4:12:35 am PDT #19523 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Erin, I echo those who are saying you are an excellent stepmom.
Seska, much funding~ma to you.
Fred Pete - Apr 11, 2011 5:19:06 am PDT #19524 of 30000
Ann, that's a ferret.
Yay, Tzepesh!
hippocampus - Apr 11, 2011 6:35:17 am PDT #19525 of 30000
not your mom's socks.
crap, I'm not getting any work done. DH's co has Announcements coming tomorrow, and I'm all on edge because he really needs some goodness from them, and we really don't need any more quicksand times from them (4 rounds of quicksand in the 3.5 years we've been here. enough.). I need calm, stability, something good. I need to clean, I think.
WindSparrow - Apr 11, 2011 7:19:29 am PDT #19526 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Sox, much anti-quicksand~ma for your DH.