Oh, Maria. I'm so sorry.
Yeah... That went well.
Mal ,'Trash'
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Kate P. - Mar 15, 2011 8:08:20 am PDT #17635 of 30000
That's the pain / That cuts a straight line down through the heart / We call it love
Nora Deirdre - Mar 15, 2011 8:11:12 am PDT #17636 of 30000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
All I want to do is run away and not deal. That's not grieving; that's avoidance.
It's a valid reaction.
I'm so sorry, Maria. All the ~ma in the world to you and your family.
Dana - Mar 15, 2011 8:19:54 am PDT #17637 of 30000
I'm terrifically busy with my ennui.
Running away is a coping strategy. Try not to be so hard on yourself.
Cashmere - Mar 15, 2011 8:29:47 am PDT #17638 of 30000
Now tagless for your comfort.
Maria, I'm so sorry.
ChiKat - Mar 15, 2011 8:41:15 am PDT #17639 of 30000
That man was going to shank me. Over an omelette. Two eggs and a slice of government cheese. Is that what my life is worth?
{{Maria}} I cannot agree with what Andi said enough. Be kind and gentle with yourself and vent here when you need to.
sj - Mar 15, 2011 8:43:14 am PDT #17640 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
{{{{{Maria and family}}}}} I'm so sorry that the news wasn't better. Please don't be so hard on yourself, you're having a normal reaction to very bad news.
Teppy, good luck for you and Tim in getting that kid to Texas.
Burrell - Mar 15, 2011 8:46:04 am PDT #17641 of 30000
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
All I want to do is run away and not deal. That's not grieving; that's avoidance.
Maybe part of you is running away, meanwhile another part is confronting you with own actions. Maybe you need to explore both of these strategies right now. That's what I mean about being kind to yourself. You will work through your feelings in your own way, in your own time. Don't beat yourself up with "shoulds."
DavidS - Mar 15, 2011 8:50:16 am PDT #17642 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Maybe you need to explore both of these strategies right now. That's what I mean about being kind to yourself. You will work through your feelings in your own way, in your own time.
Exactly. The impulse to run away or curl up in a ball is not the same thing as doing it. Give yourself some time to work through these issues. If nothing else, recognize the strength of these feelings is really in exact proportion to how much you love your uncle and your dad. It is a huge loss and it is hard to look it in the face. But I know that you will be there for your Dad and Uncle when you're ready.
Maria - Mar 15, 2011 9:00:18 am PDT #17643 of 30000
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
Sorry. I didn't mean to disappear on you. Work doesn't stop even though I'm working through whether I can fall apart or not.
Thank you so much for... this. I don't even know what to call the last handful of posts, because they're not just encouragement, sympathy, hairpats, and understanding. It's more concrete, like something I can hold on to.
The "shoulds" and the anticipation of all of the various ways this will play out are what's doing me in. I don't know how to turn that off right now.
Wow, I've fooled everyone into thinking I'm strong, including myself. Hello, this is the lie.
NoiseDesign - Mar 15, 2011 9:02:06 am PDT #17644 of 30000
Our wings are not tired
Maria, I'm so very sorry. I wish I had something to say to make it easier, but I don't. I've been there, and it's rough, and miserable, but you will make it through the far side of this. Lean on your friends as much as you can, do anything you need to do to keep yourself sane, and try not to beat up on yourself too much.