Maria, I'm wishing you and your family strength, and that you allow yourself to grieve on your own terms, not based on how you think you should feel. Much comfort to your father, to your uncle, especially, but also to you.
Lorne: Once the word spreads you beat up an innocent old man, well, the truly terrible will think twice before going toe-to-toe with our Avenging Angel. Spike: Yes. The geriatric community will be soiling their nappies when they hear you're on the case. Bravo.
'The Cautionary Tale of Numero Cinco'
Spike's Bitches 46: Don't I get a cookie?
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
hippocampus - Mar 15, 2011 8:01:03 am PDT #17631 of 30000
not your mom's socks.
DavidS - Mar 15, 2011 8:01:29 am PDT #17632 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
That's sad, Maria. I've always been grateful for the time I had with my mom at the end of her life. She was dying of cancer and had a stroke and was emaciated and looked terrible. But it meant so much to her to just have the people she loved around her. Just sitting on the bed with her and holding her hand. She knew she was loved and that's really a lot at the end.
Tep, soon your long national nightmare will be over. Then I strongly suggest you look over your finances and find a way to treat yourself for a couple weeks. Because you need to make an investment in Teppy's Well being.
Maria - Mar 15, 2011 8:03:07 am PDT #17633 of 30000
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
Everyone grieves in her own way.
All I want to do is run away and not deal. That's not grieving; that's avoidance.
It's like I'm feeling too much and I don't know how to make the deluge stop. Then add anger because I can't fucking "deal," and I'm caught in a loop. Curling up in a ball is not an option.
WindSparrow - Mar 15, 2011 8:03:41 am PDT #17634 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Maria, try not to be hard on yourself. You feel what you feel. There is no right or wrong way to feel. And this is a safe place to talk about how you feel - so that it doesn't fester inside you but also will not cause hurt to other members of your family who also have to carry this burden of grief. It's hard enough that your family has already gone through the pain of your uncle getting sick; the further pain that you anticipate is going to be immensely hard to handle. It's not like ear-piercing, where a person might have more actual pain from worrying than the event itself. There is no escaping the stress, sadness, worry for others, grief that is coming to your family as your uncle's illness progresses. The worry that you are experiencing now is an additional burden. I wish there were words to say that would make it easier, but all I've got is, be gentle with yourself.
Kate P. - Mar 15, 2011 8:08:20 am PDT #17635 of 30000
That's the pain / That cuts a straight line down through the heart / We call it love
Oh, Maria. I'm so sorry.
Nora Deirdre - Mar 15, 2011 8:11:12 am PDT #17636 of 30000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
All I want to do is run away and not deal. That's not grieving; that's avoidance.
It's a valid reaction.
I'm so sorry, Maria. All the ~ma in the world to you and your family.
Dana - Mar 15, 2011 8:19:54 am PDT #17637 of 30000
I'm terrifically busy with my ennui.
Running away is a coping strategy. Try not to be so hard on yourself.
Cashmere - Mar 15, 2011 8:29:47 am PDT #17638 of 30000
Now tagless for your comfort.
Maria, I'm so sorry.
ChiKat - Mar 15, 2011 8:41:15 am PDT #17639 of 30000
That man was going to shank me. Over an omelette. Two eggs and a slice of government cheese. Is that what my life is worth?
{{Maria}} I cannot agree with what Andi said enough. Be kind and gentle with yourself and vent here when you need to.
sj - Mar 15, 2011 8:43:14 am PDT #17640 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
{{{{{Maria and family}}}}} I'm so sorry that the news wasn't better. Please don't be so hard on yourself, you're having a normal reaction to very bad news.
Teppy, good luck for you and Tim in getting that kid to Texas.