My love for me now / Ain't hard to explain / The Hero of Canton / The man they call...ME.

Jayne ,'Jaynestown'


Natter 66: Get Your Kicks.  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, pandas, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


meara - Sep 28, 2010 8:08:06 pm PDT #26697 of 30001

I think some of us worry we'd be those awful parents who abandon their six halfgrown children at a hospital in Nebraska when they pass a dropoff law. Er, but that would be why I has no childrens. Nor pets. Ahem.

Interesting convos here today! Sad I was all worky and couldn't chat during.

There's nearly 1 million suicides per year who might disagree with this statement, if they weren't too busy being dead.

Tcha! Well, that's why it's a SIN, sillyhead!

I want to take the Pew religion quiz, and think I'd do well, but the site is still down.

This morning as I drove three hours away (Wenatchee....home of apples...) I had to keep changing radio stations, and ended up listening to talk radio at one point...but RANDOM talk radio. Not conservative, but not idea WHAT it was...these two guys, chatting for a while about the new TLC "Sisterwives" show, and basically saying "having four wives sounds like way more work than I'm up for, but sure, if they're all consenting adults and not trying to somehow game the system, why get all up in their business? Why should we have laws against this? Aren't bigamy laws for...er...if they don't know about the other spouse? Let the gays and the polygamists do their thing, sure! But that guy seems like a douche, so the cops should go after him for being a douche" And I was a bit shocked. And then they were doing some kind of Bible "Who Wants to Be a Millionaire" with each other. But in a very not-serious-of-religion way. Except not all sarcastic or anything. WTF??


shrift - Sep 28, 2010 8:17:56 pm PDT #26698 of 30001
"You can't put a price on the joy of not giving a shit." -Zenkitty

I'm trying to stop myself from saying "you're stronger than I am" or "I don't know how you do it" anymore, because I've come to realize that it's just a euphemism for "dude, your situation sucks, and my choice not to be a parent (etc.) is totally validated!" And that's, uh, more douchey than I'd like to be, I guess.


SuziQ - Sep 28, 2010 8:24:22 pm PDT #26699 of 30001
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame

One of my mom's pet peeves was "I know how you feel". You may have gone through a similar experience, but you aren't me.


bon bon - Sep 28, 2010 8:44:42 pm PDT #26700 of 30001
It's five thousand for kissing, ten thousand for snuggling... End of list.

You really can't win with expressions of sympathy, apparently.


Vortex - Sep 28, 2010 8:46:25 pm PDT #26701 of 30001
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman

I think that you can, you should try to avoid platitudes. You can say "I'm sorry, is there anything I can do?" pretty inoffensively, I think.


DavidS - Sep 28, 2010 8:54:42 pm PDT #26702 of 30001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

ION, JZ took Matilda with her to pick up her Dad at the airport tonight. First thing Matilda told her Papou?

"I'm going to a new school and my new teacher's name is Helen."

So far so good.


Liese S. - Sep 28, 2010 9:10:38 pm PDT #26703 of 30001
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."

Good. Glad to hear it. I have high hopes for Matilda`s new school.
 
I am pretty sure I said, "I don`t know how you do it." to you & K, Kat. Oops. I say it to pretty much every parent, but yeah, I can see how there`s not really a good answer to that no matter how it`s intended. So, I apologize.
 
The SO & I saw a cutiepants Asian family in the Japanese garden at the Albuquerque botanical gardens this weekend and I was teasing him about deciding not to have kids. They had two little girls with adorable matching (not identical, mind you, complementary) hats. Of course if I actually had kids, we would never manage to get them out of the house to awesome outings like the botanical gardens, much less in complementary outfits.


javachik - Sep 28, 2010 9:20:01 pm PDT #26704 of 30001
Our wings are not tired.

I can tell you lots of parents just don't. I know, since I am the daughter of a runaway mother. My grandfather adopted me because she just couldn't get her shit together to parent a child (she had already given up a son for adoption 5 years before I was born). So, yeah, some people do put more effort into being a parent than others. It's effort, it's sacrifice, it's lots of things to be a good parent. And sometimes those of us who aren't parents (and those who are!) want you peeps with extra hard situations to know that we admire you and thank you. I hope that does not sound condescending or patronizing.

I had a really, really shitty "parent" so I am especially thrilled to see that others take parenting very seriously and do it well.


§ ita § - Sep 28, 2010 10:49:29 pm PDT #26705 of 30001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.

Not in my situation. And most likely not in msbelle's either. And not really in yours either.

What javachik said. By no means do all parents stick around. And some that do are horrible horrible selfish people. You're not. msbelle's not. I might be.

Oh, look, I'm awake.


Lee - Sep 29, 2010 12:09:06 am PDT #26706 of 30001
The feeling you get when your brain finally lets your heart get in its pants.

Oh, look, I'm awake.

Me too, which is really incredibly stupid.