shrift, I think a weekend visit would be a great idea. She might need time to just decompress and having you two there to care for her mother, or a to provide a good excuse to go on an outing, would be thoughtful.
Funny thing about black and white. You mix it together and you get gray. And it doesn't matter how much white you try and put back in, you're never gonna get anything but gray.
Lilah ,'Destiny'
Natter 65: Speed Limit Enforced by Aircraft
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, pandas, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Burrell - Apr 26, 2010 8:43:25 pm PDT #25363 of 30001
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
Strix - Apr 26, 2010 8:46:47 pm PDT #25364 of 30001
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
If your mom's the type, a spa gift certificate? Or, if her mom is at home with her, a gift of a service coming into clean the house over?
A visit from the Peapod or drugstore.com fairies for staples? Certificate to a favorite restaurant/take-out place, with a B&N certificate if she likes to read? A gas card?
A bottle of her favorite wine, some lavender oil, 2 valium and an Ambien?
javachik - Apr 26, 2010 8:47:18 pm PDT #25365 of 30001
Our wings are not tired.
White privilege is thinking "what a scumbag" when another white person commits a crime without having to worrying what reflection and effect it will have upon other white people. Every single time a black person in Oakland (my town) commits a crime, I wince; it just allows people who harbor prejudices to keep their bullshit ideas going.
Strix - Apr 26, 2010 8:48:43 pm PDT #25366 of 30001
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
(Is the "Oh but they're such nice kids! They just made a mistake!" available to all high school students? Hmm?)
Yes, you always need to turn the situation around and see how it's played. Does that shoe pinch if it's on the other foot, hmm? Then maybe, juuuussstt maybe, it ain't fair.
shrift - Apr 26, 2010 8:52:52 pm PDT #25367 of 30001
"You can't put a price on the joy of not giving a shit." -Zenkitty
That's not a bad idea, Burrell. I talked with her for a long time last night, and having an extra pair of non-judgmental hands for a weekend wouldn't hurt.
(And I don't think I've mentioned it here because it's early days yet, but I'm going to be an aunt again come December!)
If your mom's the type, a spa gift certificate?
Maybe a massage would help. I give her B&N gift certificates often because the women in my family do like to read, but she hasn't got much time for that lately. But having help with grandma may be the best thing I can give her right now.
Burrell - Apr 26, 2010 8:54:54 pm PDT #25368 of 30001
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
Oo, congratulations Auntie shrift!
Trudy Booth - Apr 26, 2010 9:07:21 pm PDT #25369 of 30001
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
I'm sure your mom would love to see you, Auntie Shrift. Then maybe you could chase her out the door for a massage (or have someone come to the house if that's stress-inducing in its own way).
Cass - Apr 26, 2010 9:10:40 pm PDT #25370 of 30001
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
But having help with grandma may be the best thing I can give her right now.
It's an amazing gift to give. Any help or respite at all.
And congrats on more Aunt-ness.
Strix - Apr 26, 2010 9:35:32 pm PDT #25371 of 30001
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
Congrats, Auntie!
Calli - Apr 27, 2010 1:36:26 am PDT #25372 of 30001
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
I'm sure feeling free to get out and about for a weekend, or even an afternoon, would be appreciated, shrift. And congrats on the new auntness. Being an aunt is terrific.