Oh Glam, that is seriously wrong and you are absolutely right to be beyond upset. I wish there was something I could do to help personally; I am really glad you have such an awesome, capable wife who can take on the fight.

That office is full of ridiculous crapheads.

Oh, GC! I'm so sorry - I don't blame you one bit for the anger or the tears.

Do you have a neighborhood listserv or some other information stream where you could ask a lot of people at once for the names of OBs who take your insurance and/or have privileges at your hospital?

GC - email me your phone #. aconat at avalonhousing dot org. I will walk/talk you through this and I have some awesome recs for you.

GC, another thought: maybe you could call your high-risk doctor's office for recommendations?

GC, I'm so sorry. I can only imagine how stressed out you must be feeling. I don't know your parents, but I suspect they would not want you to stress on their behalf.

Did you have any leads about OBs from a few weeks ago? I know you probably feel hugely overwhelmed, but can you talk to the current office and see if they can work with your insurance to add the current doctor.

Possibly she's expecting Stephanie to supply the friends, as well.

Yeah, this was my thought as well. I'm so glad to know that other people see this all the way I do.

That is, if you want someone to walk/talk you through it. Or even if you just want to scream at an actual person. I'm here for that, too, if you want. I hate doctor's offices sometimes. The crap they get away with not telling you is just awesome.

I called the office this morning and they tell me to find out if the hospital is considered in network. WTF?

No no no no no no no. NOT. YOUR. JOB.

OBFAIL.

oh god. Impotant anger here for you . I wish I could do more. Seriously, call Aims and use her help.

Wish I could do more

Oh, Glam, what a terrible development! I hope your insurance company will help you through figuring this out, since it is utterly and entirely not your fault. Surely they can help you find an OB who is in network, at the very least.

I recommend not paying any bills that stem from this fuck up right away, appeal them as many times as you can stand it.

DW called. We are switching OBs. She called our pediatrician, who we loved, and he gave her a rec for an OB who is affiliated with our hospital and we have an appt. with her Wednesday morning.

She spoke with our current OB and the asshole there wasn't even apologetic, even when DW told her how upset we both are. I can't even believe the incompetence. DW also told her that we are not paying at 70% as they never informed us of this change. Office woman claimed Dr. would "probably" make an adjustment so we'd pay at 90%. Dr. is getting an angry letter - one of many, I'd assume.

I just can't believe our "luck." It seems like this kind of shit happens all the time with us. Here's hoping the new OB is good...