Congratulations Rick!

I just found out Thrill Kill Kult and Lords of Acid are playing a club down in Deep Ellum. Would that I were in my 20's again. There is no way after a full day of work and getting up at 5:30 tomorrow, I could ever dream of pulling off that show.

But, imagine going to work and someone saying "Whoa, you okay?" and you replying, "Yeah, I went to the Thrill Kill Kult and Lords of Acid last night." The look on their face would be awesome!

Congratulations, Rick! My hat is off to parents of twins. Babies are hard!

Congrats Rick!

but for a while strangers felt entitled to ask about potential children.

Dude. Random coworkers would come up to my DH (this is when we were like 24) and offer their condolences about our "problem." Upon his WTFproblem?!? it would become clear that they'd assumed since we were married, but childless, we medically couldn't have children and were upset about this.

Now, that was mostly in non-U.S. countries, but even here people, esp. Mormons, would simultaneously berate me for being too young to have the job I did, and too old to not have kids. I tended to think my job was a lot less important/valuable/whatever than parenting, but I've never been great with culturally-mandated life choices.

(Which is why I try not to get too talky about P-C's parents, also.)

esp. Mormons

Ding. Here in Utah, nice old ladies on the bus would lean towards me, smile, and say, "How many children do you have, dear?" When I smiled cheerfully and said, "I don't have any," a look of disturbed confusion would come over her, and she'd start leaning back. If these folks were Catholic, I'd probably be getting the sign of the cross, or Holy Water.

I've never been great with culturally-mandated life choices.

(Which is why I try not to get too talky about P-C's parents, also.)

Yeah, I do exactly the same thing re: P-C's parents, for exactly the same reason.

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There are a few instances in which I don't mind people asking me if we'll have more children, and more often it has to do with who is asking, why they are asking, and what the context is.

Like my dad, when I got the all-clear on my thyroid said, "Um, maybe do you think there might be more grandbabies coming, maybe?" All very shy and wanting to say, "Hey - I like your kid and I would like to hang out with more of your kids. I enjoy being a grandfather and would like to do that more often!" and I know that if I said, "No - we're done. Em's enough." he'd say something like "I understand - they're hard to pay for." or something equally understanding and supportive, but not justifying.

I ALWAYS thought I'd have kids but I am a DES daughter and that messed up my reproductive system so it would not have been possible--although I only got confirmation of that after my hysterectomy a few years ago. I went through some real pain about it in my late 30s, but came to terms with it. The DH has never wanted children and he once apologized to me for that, and I said "Hey a guy who never wanted kids and a chick who can't have any...a match made in heaven". And I really have a great life--zooming off on motorcycle trips whenever we want to, for instance. And I have kinds in my life--just not my own.

Rick, congratulations, and also good luck working out balancing sleep with everything else.

I am a DES daughter

I thought I was for the longest time, but never really worried about it because I never really wanted kids. Thankfully I asked my dad maybe a year before he died, and he swore up and down I wasn't.