Rick, congratulations, and also good luck working out balancing sleep with everything else.

I am a DES daughter

I thought I was for the longest time, but never really worried about it because I never really wanted kids. Thankfully I asked my dad maybe a year before he died, and he swore up and down I wasn't.

Smartphones should have an app that's like geocaching or whatever that's called, where you point it at a location and it tells you all about it, only for people. Point it at me, and your phone would tell you "Does not want kids. Does not believe in higher powers. Pro-abortion-rights, anti-idiocy. Has sick, sarcastic sense of humor. Handle with care - kid gloves not necessary, pigskin leather gloves advisable." Would save me a lot of time.

Maybe that should be the OKCupid profile I've been trying to write.

I said "Hey a guy who never wanted kids and a chick who can't have any...a match made in heaven"

Scrappy, I didn't realize I was you, but apparently I am. I don't know for sure that I can't have kids, just that it didn't work so well the three years I tried in my first marriage (which, in retrospect, was a blessing in disguise), but my PCOS makes it unlikely without extraordinary measures that I know we won't take. I haven't completely written it off, but... And yeah, ND has never wanted kids, which further complicates things. I go back and forth between being happy about how much freedom it gives me to have my own life and being sad. I won't even try to predict what will happen, though. The past decade has taught me the futility of thinking I have a clue about my future.

yay for you , rick! happy hearding!

If someone would have told me I was going to be a children's librarian 4 years ago I would ahve laughted. It was so not my thing. Now I have to go buy eggs and ham for green eggs and ham day

I go back and forth between being happy about how much freedom it gives me to have my own life and being sad.

This is where I am, really. I'm glad I don't have kids now, because I wouldn't have been able to live the life I have if I'd had them already. And while I'm not happy about the long term singleness, and I haven't been happy about my life during my deep depression, I am on the whole VERY happy with the life I have. The trip to Italy really helped me remember that, and remembering that pulled me out of the mire I was in.

I can't believe how productive I've been today. I sorted out some research stuff I've been sitting on, with the usual procrastination-driving terror, for literally months. I should do something to celebrate. There should be ice cream.

Seska, are you on LJ or Dreamwidth?

I used to be on both, but I couldn't keep up with my accounts (on top of various blogs I write/contribute to). I met some great friends through LJ (edit: two people who I still see, although they both moved away), but it just got too much. Twitter is easier in terms of time and energy - although not quite so good for connecting 'IRL'.

If someone would have told me I was going to be a children's librarian 4 years ago I would ahve laughted. It was so not my thing. Now I have to go buy eggs and ham for green eggs and ham day

Fun! I felt much like that about teaching. (Which I'm so excited about being able to do again next year.)

I am on the whole VERY happy with the life I have. The trip to Italy really helped me remember that, and remembering that pulled me out of the mire I was in.

This makes me SO HAPPY!

ETA: I forgot to send nothing-ma to Raq, but I was thinking it really hard!

Congratulations, Rick!! What a cute story.

Five years ago, I would not have guessed that I'd be working at an office and going to meetings.

I go back and forth between being happy about how much freedom it gives me to have my own life and being sad.

This is where I am, really.

Yeah, being single is pretty great sometimes. Other times, it is not.

I just found out Thrill Kill Kult and Lords of Acid are playing a club down in Deep Ellum. Would that I were in my 20's again.

Heh. I've been addicted to "The Crablouse" because of the Sucker Punch trailer.

PC, I'm sorry your parents and your brother are at odds, but I find a lot of my sympathy is going to the she-devil. I hope he prepared her for this.

I hope so too. She's really cool. We are now Facebook friends since the cat's out of the bag. And I think when my mom asks if I knew, I will just say, "Of course I knew." And if she thinks putting my brother over her is some affront, well...family's family. She probably wouldn't believe me if I said I didn't know anyway. She knows my brother and I are closer than that. Maybe I'm not a good son, but I'm a good brother.

If my mother opened a closet to snoop I would throw her out of my house. And she'd agree with me.

Yeah, we have different mothers. My mother burst in on me every night during high school as I was IMing with people with "Who are you talking to??"

Well, high school is one thing - you are still a minor with no "real" rights to privacy. But as an adult? Well, no.