I love your bees, -t, and think about them and you every.single.time I see a bee in my backyard. I even tell them "hey there's a beautiful place up the highway you should see!"
Slay-er? Chosen One. She who hangs out a lot in cemeteries? You're kidding. Ask around. Look it up: Slayer comma The.
Buffy ,'Showtime'
Spike's Bitches 45: That sure as hell wasn't in the brochure.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
javachik - Aug 10, 2010 6:14:14 pm PDT #28126 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
brenda m - Aug 10, 2010 6:18:09 pm PDT #28127 of 30000
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
I guess I've always thought of funerals as something sacred -- or maybe I mean solemn -- that "everyday" events shouldn't impinge upon. But I've never really examined that belief, just kind of gone along with it. As I think about it, there's no reason not to take pictures at a funeral; it's just not commonplace. (As far as I know.)
A lot of people asked me at the time if we we'd videotaped my mom's funeral. And for a moment I felt like I'd lost an opportunity. But, for me, it felt right that the whole thing was sort of ephemeral and hazy.
But if a record is what will make it feel right for him, more power to him.
I love the bees. And even the fawn. My story is about a rock.
-t - Aug 10, 2010 6:54:20 pm PDT #28128 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Hee, javachik!
As I recall, that was a pretty good rock story.
Connie Neil - Aug 10, 2010 7:13:09 pm PDT #28129 of 30000
brillig
The day after my father's funeral, my sisters and mother and I went to a big shopping mall that was always a planned day trip to go to. It was a surprisingly congenial trip (for us) and such a blessing to get out of the funeral focus we'd been in for the last week.
Blessings on you and yours, Teppy.
WindSparrow - Aug 10, 2010 7:58:59 pm PDT #28130 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Spidra, I'm sorry you are feeling so stuck. I've also emailed you a bit of info.
Spidra Webster - Aug 10, 2010 8:13:11 pm PDT #28131 of 30000
I wish I could just go somewhere to get flensed but none of the whaling ships near me take Medicare.
Thanks very much, Windsparrow.
I'm glad you got through the funeral okay, Steph. It was very nice of you to take pictures for him.
I had the same question. I had a camera - there were loads of family about - but it felt odd to take pictures of a funeral so I didn't. I took some pictures when we had a bit of a wake back at my grandma's, though.
Vortex - Aug 10, 2010 8:45:24 pm PDT #28132 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
Is there an option to email an rsvp, Vortex? We have that option and are thinking about not attaching stamps but including them so people could use the stamp to RSVP or for something else if they are emailing their response.
Five years ago, I wouldn't have thought anything of it, but now, it's a pain in the ass to buy a stamp. It's not the .42, it's the EFFORT.
I've never seen it done, and there's something about it that seems tacky, like a funeral is too sacred to whip out the camera.
Me either, until my dad's cousin took pictures at my dad's funeral. I mean, it looked really cool with the cason (carriage that carries the casket) and the horses and the beauty of Arlington; but it was still a surprise.
Pix - Aug 10, 2010 9:05:14 pm PDT #28133 of 30000
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie
Five years ago, I wouldn't have thought anything of it, but now, it's a pain in the ass to buy a stamp. It's not the .42, it's the EFFORT.
It's possible that they left it off accidentally when they were assembling invitations and would be mortified if they knew. I know I was convinced I'd done so on at least a few invites.
Teppy, it sounds like it went as well as it could have, but funerals are so damned hard. Non-invasive hugs to you and the Boy and his family.
I, too, love t's bees. And Buffistas in general.
ION, something is scurrying around in my walls. Mia has been prairie dogging and staring at the noises, so I know it's not just me. I'm not squicked easily, but then I remember someone telling me about giant rats running around in SoCal on roofs and such and I get FREAKED THE FUCK OUT. The noises are not small. I should add that. Nsm much scurrying as thumping about. t shudder
omnis_audis - Aug 10, 2010 9:06:03 pm PDT #28134 of 30000
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir
It's so difficult to explain the buffistas to others sometimes. I usually just say, "A friend of mine..."And how is that not accurate? A friend doesn't have to be at arms distance. And if your definition says it does, maybe consider how we communicate... via keyboard... and how far away is it? If y'all aren't friends, than I dunno what one is. And if the rest of the world can't understand it, Fuck em! I got y'all.
meara - Aug 10, 2010 9:22:46 pm PDT #28135 of 30000
Oh, I'm all about "a friend of mine"--and in these days of facebook, it even makes perfect sense that a friend of mine said something on the internet! Much more so than it used to in the past. ;) Though often people are all "Oh, a friend from college?" (or DC, or whatever) and I'm like "Er...no...just...um..." (especially if I'm mentioning one of you with kids or something)
Pix I'm sorry there are things in your walls. That is super creepy.
I have also never thought of taking pictures of a funeral. AT a funeral, possibly--I mean, my father's family being midwestern Irish Catholic, there was usually some sort of post-funeral potluck shindig at the church, so there? Sure! Pictures! Look, family is together! But NSM of the actual funeral stuff.