Seska, I'm curious--I totally grok not being a fan of the general porn industry that most stuff comes from--it seems from what I've read/seen to be a fucked up place that does few people any favors. When you say you're against porn, do you mean because it's basically coming from that? Or just...in general? I ask because while mostly I'm more a reader than a viewer (and from what you say about erotica, I'm assuming when you reference "porn" you mean visual, not written), but when I do view, it tends to be very much women-for-women stuff--the dyke feminist porn. Stuff made by and for a queer audience, with a queer gaze. With hot butch women in it (yum!). ...and some of it has had my friends in it! (Though I generally try to avoid those bits, cause ew.) And I have a hard time finding that objectionable, or seeing how it's really hurting anyone.

ita, a friend of mine did this as a bodyguard

That's an angle...I, of course, would get the guy who'd get a charge out of the idea of his own ass being kickable, and that skeeves me. Which is exactly why I could never date on demand. Too easily skeeved by predilections.

And I have a hard time finding that objectionable, or seeing how it's really hurting anyone.

I'm pretty pro-porn and anti-the porn industry as it stands. I don't relly have an answer to your point on this though. However I do have serious reservations about prostitution/paid sex acts in general which might cross over a bit.

I've heard from plenty of women who are prostitutes by choice, and make lots of money and see it as in no way against their feminist principles. However, that does not take away from the fact that something like 80% of prostitutes (in the UK at least) are drug addicts of one kind or another, and often controlled by pimps. That, to my mind, makes having sex with them rape. So, if a person is paying for sex with an individual, how can they tell if if they're paying for sex or paying for rape? And if you're working within that system, are you just supporting a system where peple aren't asking questions of women's agency in the industry?

I am deeply ashamed of the fact that we haven't finished sending thank you notes yet. That's going to happen this coming week since we will both be home, but we're disgustingly late.

Don't be. I haven't even sent you a gift yet!

Oh crap! I just remembered I have one to send as well!

No no! You guys don't need to send us anything! I didn't mean that at all. I just feel rotten about not having finished the silly thank you notes that I'd meant to send by the end of March at the latest.

I didn't take it that way at all. Just that supposedly I have a year to think of the perfect gift for you guys, which I WANT to do, so maybe that means you have a year to write thank-you notes!

I didn't take it that way either! I just meant that jolted my memory that I got your address a while back because I had something to send and then I just didn't do it.

I am horrible about mail.

I think by the law of etiquette, we do have a year to write thank you notes, but that just seems ridonk to me. Anyway, it will be moot (Teppy, not mute!) after this week, because we are GOING to finish them. Huzzah!

Teppy, not mute!

I heart you!