WOO HOO Erin's getting married! May it be the perfect day you deserve.
Job~ma all around.
I kept my maiden name. I contemplated hyphenating, but it came down to paperwork - just wasn't going to do it - and I had already developed a professional reputation as MFN. It still bothers my FIL, and to a lesser extent DH, to this day.
I handle it just like it's handled in Italy. The women legally keep their surname from birth, but are known socially as Mrs. Husband's Last Name. I don't mind introducing myself as MFP; I just didn't want to lose the part of my identity visibily manifested by my maiden name.
The only practical side of the name chancing decision I can think of is the question of the addressee the check (cheque?): if you're indenting it to the bride, and she'll change her name, it won't get accepted.
Other than that, I'm way too young to be a part of this discussion. But I can say that I love my name (means "poem/song son-of-light"), and that there's only me and my sister to carry that name - there aren't any males in my family to carry it to the next generation.
Happiest of wedding days, Erin! I'm so thrilled for you!
::huge hugs::
I always had an idea that I would change my name to FirstName MaidenName Husband'sname, be known professionally as Firstname LastName, but legally as all three. Then came the family name drama. And then my dad died. So, I'm probably going to keep my name as a tribute to him.
oh, and the important bit -
Congratulations on your wedding day!!!!!!
I love my name and really didn't even consider changing it. To Shir's point though, my grandmother and great aunt aren't really down with that and are often writing checks for Nora W. Which occasionally is a PITA, but not too much, since we have a joint checking account.
Happy wedding day, Erin !!
Happy, happy wedding day, Erin!
If I remarried, I'd keep my maiden name. It was a PITA to change back to it after I got divorced. The Navy lost the paperwork twice and it took eight damn months to get it straight. I had a new SS card in just weeks, but I had to wait for the fripping Navy to get it right before I could go buy all new dungaree uniform shirts and pants to put my name on.
Being queer it's even more of a thing...both keep names? Find a new name together? She takes mine? I take hers? (Of course, FIND a girl first...). I like the idea of having the same name since it's more of a "we can has family!" signifier, but...
