Being queer it's even more of a thing...both keep names? Find a new name together? She takes mine? I take hers? (Of course, FIND a girl first...). I like the idea of having the same name since it's more of a "we can has family!" signifier, but...
Don't you have an elsewhere to be?
Cordelia ,'Lessons'
Spike's Bitches 45: That sure as hell wasn't in the brochure.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
meara - Apr 09, 2010 6:13:25 am PDT #15335 of 30000
Dana - Apr 09, 2010 6:44:53 am PDT #15336 of 30000
I haven't trusted science since I saw the film "Flubber."
Yes, various relatives of ours still write checks to me with the husband's last name. People are just stubborn.
§ ita § - Apr 09, 2010 6:59:14 am PDT #15337 of 30000
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
Happy marry day, Erin!
smonster - Apr 09, 2010 7:07:58 am PDT #15338 of 30000
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
Happy day, Erin! Can't wait to see pictures.
You'll be happy to hear that the drunk (and horny) texting eventually ceased and he did not show up at my house (or if he did, he respected the lights being off and did not knock). Here's hoping there will be no further communication.
ChiKat - Apr 09, 2010 7:13:19 am PDT #15339 of 30000
That man was going to shank me. Over an omelette. Two eggs and a slice of government cheese. Is that what my life is worth?
Being queer it's even more of a thing...both keep names? Find a new name together?
My friends who got married in October (legally, even! in Iowa!), hyphenate their last names and they are both J-T.
I'm fond of my name. I mean, I've been me for 42 years. It's plain and simple and 10 million other people have it, but it's mine.
Kate P. - Apr 09, 2010 7:23:38 am PDT #15340 of 30000
That's the pain / That cuts a straight line down through the heart / We call it love
HAPPY WEDDING DAY, ERIN! Can't wait to see pictures of the gorgeous bride, and the handsome groom, and the beautiful day!
Laga - Apr 09, 2010 7:39:41 am PDT #15341 of 30000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
Happy day, Erin!
When I got married we both changed our names, and kept the new name after the divorce. I think about going back to my maiden name but it seems like a lot of effort.
Daisy Jane - Apr 09, 2010 7:42:08 am PDT #15342 of 30000
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."
Happy wedding day, Erin!
Seska (the Watcher-in-Training) - Apr 09, 2010 7:44:45 am PDT #15343 of 30000
"We're all stories, in the end. Just make it a good one, eh?"
Have a fantastic day, Erin!
We're having fun with our recent name change (The Girl's finally changed hers legally now, too). There was TOTAL confusion from friends over why we'd want to change our names (our response: why not?), and even more because we've taken an entirely new name. It's making us happy. I'm totally behind people doing what works for them. Name situations are going to get more interesting as more couples think about them, rather than doing something automatically.
I did debate it mildly for a bit, but I came down to "If I get my Ph.D/ever have anything published, I want to be Dr. Griggs, not Dr. J."
I get that. The Girl is using her 'old' name for professional things, but I haven't decided what I'm doing yet. My little book review's being published as Naomi L- J-, rather than just Naomi J-, so that my colleagues back at my old uni will know it's me. I don't know whether I'll continue with two surnames if I have anything else published, though.
Ginger - Apr 09, 2010 7:48:07 am PDT #15344 of 30000
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
Happiest of wedding days, Erin.
He is the half part of a blessed man
Left to be finished by such as she:
And she a fair divided excellence
Whose fulness of perfection lies in him.