Giles: I jump out of the circle, jump back in, and, and, shake my gourd. Buffy: Hey, I think I know this ritual. The ancient shamans were next called upon to do the Hokey-Pokey and to turn themselves around.

'Dirty Girls'


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Burrell - Nov 21, 2009 12:27:04 pm PST #1270 of 30000
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!

The Boy wasn't a hyperactive kid, so he didn't get diagnosed as anything but "lazy underachiever." He wasn't diagnosed until his 30s. Some people aren't diagnosed until they're in their 60s.

Don't you hate the "lazy underachiever" label? So useless. It's like guilt. I find guilt a very destructive emotion because it actually makes it harder to effectively address whatever is causing the guilt. Same with lazy. And I call myself lazy all the time. I'm very bad about it.


Burrell - Nov 21, 2009 12:30:52 pm PST #1271 of 30000
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!

But they're going to have to figure out what to do with a five year old who can read the newspaper and do addition and subtraction but can't keep his hands to himself or stay on track during a full school day.

Do they have an open classroom or one that emphasizes compassionate communication? I'm just thinking if he had a teacher who responded to his behavior with support instead of punishment, it'd be great for him.


Steph L. - Nov 21, 2009 12:36:45 pm PST #1272 of 30000
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated

there's apparently a spectrum of these things, with lots of crossover. Which makes sense.

The co-morbidities with ADD are fascinating to me (which is a totally privileged thing to say, since I don't have ADD). Because The Boy is on the board of directors for our local ADD support group, they sent him to the national conference last month, and he brought back a lot of good material. OCD is apparently a common co-morbidity, as are depression and Tourette's syndrome.

Don't you hate the "lazy underachiever" label?

Early on in our relationship, we had the conversation about What Never to Say to Me Unless You Want Me to Lose My Shit Entirely. And The Boy's only stipulation was to never call him lazy, or anything in that vein (like "[The Boy] can't keep up," or "[The Boy] always falls behind"), because that's what every teacher he ever had said about him.

And he's so NOT lazy, and it makes me so angry on his behalf. Especially on behalf of his childhood self.


Cashmere - Nov 21, 2009 12:37:24 pm PST #1273 of 30000
Now tagless for your comfort.

Do they have an open classroom or one that emphasizes compassionate communication? I'm just thinking if he had a teacher who responded to his behavior with support instead of punishment, it'd be great for him

I think so. That's part of the idea of this upcoming meeting. Finding a 1st grade teacher who understands the issues and setting up a fall back position for him when he needs some quiet time or sensory breaks.


Burrell - Nov 21, 2009 12:45:50 pm PST #1274 of 30000
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!

I think so. That's part of the idea of this upcoming meeting. Finding a 1st grade teacher who understands the issues and setting up a fall back position for him when he needs some quiet time or sensory breaks.

Yeah, I can see needing that kind of space. Franny's classroom has a quiet section. I'm not sure how the kid's use it. I know last year the kids created a space where they could go when they needed to be alone. It was under a specific table.


amych - Nov 21, 2009 12:46:27 pm PST #1275 of 30000
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?

Hell, the comorbidities of ADD are fascinating to me, and I'm ADD as all hell.


Steph L. - Nov 21, 2009 12:57:30 pm PST #1276 of 30000
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated

Hell, the comorbidities of ADD are fascinating to me, and I'm ADD as all hell.

It's kind of amusing how many people in the kinky community have ADD. (A LOT of them do.) There's a lot to be said for that type of creativity.

(There are a lot of IT people in the kinky community, too, which is a whole other issue.)


Seska (the Watcher-in-Training) - Nov 21, 2009 1:04:46 pm PST #1277 of 30000
"We're all stories, in the end. Just make it a good one, eh?"

It's kind of amusing how many people in the kinky community have ADD.

I've noticed this (with various forms of neurodiversity) too. There's a fascinating sociological research project to be done there.

... And I can just imagine the faces of the professors reading the Ph.D. proposal for that.


brenda m - Nov 21, 2009 1:06:11 pm PST #1278 of 30000
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there

And yeah, no ADD diagnosis for him, but I often suspect that's because when he was younger they usually only pinged hyperactive kids, and hyperactive he's not.

Gah, this all is so me. Really should think about doing something about it one of these days.


sj - Nov 21, 2009 1:45:59 pm PST #1279 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

And yeah, no ADD diagnosis for him, but I often suspect that's because when he was younger they usually only pinged hyperactive kids, and hyperactive he's not.

This is why I was never tested for ADD as a kid, despite my mother begging for me to be. I was never hyperactive, just extremely distractable.

I ended up buying a local calendar for my friend so that she can look at New England when she is back in Old England, and The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo and chocolates. She should be able to return the book before she leaves if she already has it.