Gudanov, summing it up in Natter:
I have to say I'm enjoying the Trump presidential run--it's like a rollercoaster, there's a lot of noise, nobody actually goes anywhere, and everybody feels a little sick at the end.
Book: Afraid I might be needing a preacher. Mal: That's good. You lie there and be ironical.
'Safe'
Coffee On My Monitor Again
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Zenkitty - Jul 30, 2015 7:57:00 am PDT #1103 of 1329
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
smonster - Aug 18, 2015 8:32:22 am PDT #1104 of 1329
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
WindSparrow in Bitches, because sometimes we all need a reminder:
Y'all know there isn't any minimum posting requirement, right? We are Buffistas, near and far, ebbing and flowing, present and distant. You aren't prodigals humbly returning after a rebellious departure. You belong here now as always, because you are (not were) Buffistas. All times are now.
amych - Aug 18, 2015 4:45:23 pm PDT #1105 of 1329
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?
Bitches:
erikaj - Somebody is going to be calling me a 'grammar nazi!1" any time now cause I just had fun with a "build the fence" guy not knowing the difference between "vicious" and "viscous" mockery.
Connie Neil - I hate viscous mockery, it's a bitch to get out of the carpet.
erikaj - except that he adopted that whole "talk some sense into the little lady" type vibe that I just hate like heat rash.
Ginger - It's the oozing that gets to me.
WindSparrow - He deserves viscous mockery. Mock away. Viscously.
erikaj - All Slime, no antlers.
Pix - Aug 20, 2015 8:27:43 am PDT #1106 of 1329
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie
In Natter:
shrift 5:50am shuttle is horrendously early. I don't wike it.
I'm not so sure about this 'examining your heartset and mindset' thing, either.
tommyrot Yeah. I'd just draw a crude picture of my head, with the inside labeled, "Here Be Dragons."
flea - Aug 31, 2015 5:22:08 am PDT #1107 of 1329
information libertarian
Sophia Brooks: Traffic in my city is backed up because of cabbages! A cabbage truck has turned over on the highway!
-t: Not the cabbages!
msbelle_Rebecca: Release the rabbits!
Jesse - Aug 31, 2015 12:32:43 pm PDT #1108 of 1329
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
In Natter:
Dana: This is the second time today I've been in the bathroom with a woman who didn't wash her hands. I guess it might have been the same woman both times.
-t: So I guess you aren't working from home today.
Jessica - Sep 01, 2015 1:32:10 pm PDT #1109 of 1329
If I want to become a cloud of bats, does each bat need a separate vaccination?
-t: I'm tired of the lizard people getting the blame for everything typographical. There are serif and sans serif types among lizard people just like any group.
aurelia - Sep 01, 2015 9:31:34 pm PDT #1110 of 1329
All sorrows can be borne if you put them into a story. Tell me a story.
Sophia Brooks: A cabbage truck has turned over on the highway!
brenda m: If life were The Simpsons, a mayonnaise truck would crash next.
Zenkitty - Sep 02, 2015 9:38:07 am PDT #1111 of 1329
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
Toddson , summing us up in F2F5:
ah, the Buffistas ... herding cats with spreadsheets
erikaj - Sep 05, 2015 6:35:59 pm PDT #1112 of 1329
Always Anti-fascist!
Brenda m, keeping it real. think there is a level of frustration with both white allies wanting, often subconsciously, to walk in and take over, and also with white fragility, that you have to read in to these interactions. Similarly to how women are often tasked with both doing their own part and to be emotional caretakers of men in discussions of sexism.
White people, even the most well meaning and genuine allies, are frequently just not that good at letting someone else take center stage. (Hell, look at that language I just used - letting. Maybe better to say "not that good at recognizing that someone not them belongs center stage".) So well-meaning ally becomes something that actually drains some energy and requires tending and feeding and why?
There are resources out there with recommendations for how white people can be allies in a way that doesn't take roles or energy from the people actually impacted. Or that can be even more effective - is a white face at a BLM demonstration more or less effective than a white person learning to recognize when and how to push back on their families and (mostly white) communities when they see racist or otherwise problematic behaviors?
More political than I like to get here, but bottom line, I think as people who want to be genuine allies, we need to be okay with being made uncomfortable and with not being a priority once in a while, and find our own channels.
ETA: I was heartbroken when at about age 18 or 19 I had a chance to meet Betty Shabazz and got smacked down for turning the conversation to what white people could do to help. It took me a long time to really get what she meant, and absorb it. edited by brenda m on Sep 3, 2015 2:14:15 pm P