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GC, have you checked directly with your County Recorders office, just in case? I just don't understand how listing your wife on the birth certificate isn't enough to make her legally a parent. Does someone review birth certificates and reject the ones with names that look like they might be the same gender? It's ridiculous.
But if the whole adoption thing is what you have to do, I hope it is as easy a process as possible.
GC, I am so sorry that you and your DW have to deal with this, and that the fuckwittery of some hateful, bigoted people has caused this strife for your family.
Thanks for all the support. I did at least find out that my legal coverage through work (that I paid for this year, thank God) will cover it. So at least the money part shouldn't be too awful. Still furious it has to be done at all. I mean, if DW were a man, and we used a sperm donor, I could just put my "husband" as the father on the birth cert and there would be no questions asked. LAME.
I mean, if DW were a man, and we used a sperm donor, I could just put my "husband" as the father on the birth cert and there would be no questions asked.
Really?? I mean, I get where you could just put the MaleHusbandName down and not be questioned, but would it be legal? I know next to nothing on this. (Everything I know is about adoption, so I am really asking. You and DW are totally the parents, I don't get why the legal docs can't just say this, as a moral thing.)
Oh! In happy adoption news, baby Julia is now big sister Julia. P and her hub adopted another baby girl. Everyone is quite thrilled by the embiggened family, as am I.
but would it be legal?
That's my understanding. It could be challenged later, but the presumption is that the mother's husband is the father. Worked on my grandfather's birth certificate...
Cass, yay for P and her family! That's wonderful news!
I'm all stressed out. This is no fun.
I love my birth certificate. It says mother "unknown" and lists my (adoptive) grandpa as "father". I LOVE it. It's the truest piece of paperwork I own.
I'm getting worried that my job applications will be messed up because my advisor will take until way past the deadlines to write my letter of recommendation. And I have no idea what I can do about this.
Hil, can you write your own letter and have him sign it? Not the best solution but the only one I can think of.