GC, I am so sorry that you and your DW have to deal with this, and that the fuckwittery of some hateful, bigoted people has caused this strife for your family.
Buffy: He ran away, right? Giles: Sort of, more. turned and swept out majestically, I suppose. Said I didn't concern him. Buffy: So a mythic triumph over a completely indifferent foe? Giles: Well, I'm not dead or unconscious, so I say bravo for me.
'Same Time, Same Place'
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Anne W. - Nov 02, 2009 2:34:05 pm PST #29129 of 30000
The lost sheep grow teeth, forsake their lambs, and lie with the lions.
Glamcookie - Nov 02, 2009 2:54:45 pm PST #29130 of 30000
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister
Thanks for all the support. I did at least find out that my legal coverage through work (that I paid for this year, thank God) will cover it. So at least the money part shouldn't be too awful. Still furious it has to be done at all. I mean, if DW were a man, and we used a sperm donor, I could just put my "husband" as the father on the birth cert and there would be no questions asked. LAME.
Cass - Nov 02, 2009 3:10:04 pm PST #29131 of 30000
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
I mean, if DW were a man, and we used a sperm donor, I could just put my "husband" as the father on the birth cert and there would be no questions asked.
Really?? I mean, I get where you could just put the MaleHusbandName down and not be questioned, but would it be legal? I know next to nothing on this. (Everything I know is about adoption, so I am really asking. You and DW are totally the parents, I don't get why the legal docs can't just say this, as a moral thing.)
Oh! In happy adoption news, baby Julia is now big sister Julia. P and her hub adopted another baby girl. Everyone is quite thrilled by the embiggened family, as am I.
-t - Nov 02, 2009 3:31:36 pm PST #29132 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
but would it be legal?
That's my understanding. It could be challenged later, but the presumption is that the mother's husband is the father. Worked on my grandfather's birth certificate...
sj - Nov 02, 2009 3:40:37 pm PST #29133 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Cass, yay for P and her family! That's wonderful news!
Hil R. - Nov 02, 2009 4:01:55 pm PST #29134 of 30000
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
I'm all stressed out. This is no fun.
javachik - Nov 02, 2009 4:02:19 pm PST #29135 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
I love my birth certificate. It says mother "unknown" and lists my (adoptive) grandpa as "father". I LOVE it. It's the truest piece of paperwork I own.
Hil R. - Nov 02, 2009 4:11:43 pm PST #29136 of 30000
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
I'm getting worried that my job applications will be messed up because my advisor will take until way past the deadlines to write my letter of recommendation. And I have no idea what I can do about this.
sj - Nov 02, 2009 4:13:36 pm PST #29137 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Hil, can you write your own letter and have him sign it? Not the best solution but the only one I can think of.
Hil R. - Nov 02, 2009 4:15:48 pm PST #29138 of 30000
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
I wouldn't know what to write, and I know he wouldn't put his name on anything I wrote, anyway.