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Spike's Bitches 44: It's about the rules having changed.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Hil R. - Nov 02, 2009 4:01:55 pm PST #29134 of 30000
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l

I'm all stressed out. This is no fun.


javachik - Nov 02, 2009 4:02:19 pm PST #29135 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.

I love my birth certificate. It says mother "unknown" and lists my (adoptive) grandpa as "father". I LOVE it. It's the truest piece of paperwork I own.


Hil R. - Nov 02, 2009 4:11:43 pm PST #29136 of 30000
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l

I'm getting worried that my job applications will be messed up because my advisor will take until way past the deadlines to write my letter of recommendation. And I have no idea what I can do about this.


sj - Nov 02, 2009 4:13:36 pm PST #29137 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

Hil, can you write your own letter and have him sign it? Not the best solution but the only one I can think of.


Hil R. - Nov 02, 2009 4:15:48 pm PST #29138 of 30000
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l

I wouldn't know what to write, and I know he wouldn't put his name on anything I wrote, anyway.


DavidS - Nov 02, 2009 4:16:35 pm PST #29139 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

And I have no idea what I can do about this.

You need to talk to the Dept. Head. It's (as River Tam noted)...problematic.


Hil R. - Nov 02, 2009 4:21:54 pm PST #29140 of 30000
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l

I'll give it a little bit of time and then talk to the department head. I'm not sure that he could do anything, though -- I mean, my advisor consistently slacks on pretty much all his duties, and the department head hasn't been able to do anything about any of that.


Cass - Nov 02, 2009 4:24:53 pm PST #29141 of 30000
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.

Ugh, Hil.

That's wonderful news!
It's a very happy thing. They are some well-loved Buffista-adjacent kids.


DavidS - Nov 02, 2009 4:26:44 pm PST #29142 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

I mean, my advisor consistently slacks on pretty much all his duties, and the department head hasn't been able to do anything about any of that.

Well, then your Dept. Head is a dillweed! It being professional suicide to say so, maybe you need to cultivate a friendship with the Dept. Head's secretary? Somebody who would advocate for you? Do you have any friends in the department?

Because your advisor is a serious impediment to moving forward with your career. And since you don't have the leverage to confront him directly, you need to triangulate a bit.


Laura - Nov 02, 2009 4:32:02 pm PST #29143 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.

No doubt skipping lots of stuff in my quick skim of the days posts, but...

It is heartbreaking and incredibly wrong that it was never questioned who the other parent was when I gave birth to my children, and yet GC has to fight with time, energy, money, and emotion to get DW her parental rights. It sickens me.