I hate gardening. I thought I would like it, but somehow forgot that it involves being outside in the sun and dealing with bugs. My black thumb is offset by the fact that we live in a reclaimed bog, and everything grows like crazy here. Our climbing rose in front of the house is making another attempt to reach the power lines.
A year and a half ago, I could have eviscerated him with my thoughts. Now I can barely hurt his feelings. Things used to be so much simpler.
Anya ,'Dirty Girls'
Spike's Bitches 44: It's about the rules having changed.
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Atropa - Aug 29, 2009 9:41:58 am PDT #21280 of 30000
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
Strix - Aug 29, 2009 9:45:05 am PDT #21281 of 30000
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
Hmm. Interesting timing for the house conversation. I was just coming here to pick the hivemind.
How, I wonder, does one indicate to one's so that one is thinking "Hey, maybe we should live together!" without freaking him out? I'm there 4 or 5 nights, we would both save some money, and we get along together really well. And, yo, I'm in love with him.
I feel ready. It's been 6 months -- is it too soon? I've never had to negotiate this kind of emotional thing before - I'm really fumbling, and I don't want to dick anything up.
(why do I feel like I'm writing into Cosmo?!)
I'm just looking for some thoughts. I loves me the analysis.
javachik - Aug 29, 2009 9:48:37 am PDT #21282 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
Erin, I don't know the answer, but I am terribly happy for you that you've gotten to this point. :)
I can easily spend a third to half of my weekend doing basic upkeep chores around the place. I love it, and get a lot of satisfaction from it, but still...
I do this and I rent a house. I'd actually like to buy this house one day, so who knows. I get along very well with my landlady (I am the first person renting this place--she moved in with her boyfriend) and she's already talked about selling it to me. I love puttering around cleaning, fixing and gardening. I have a whole list of stuff I'd do if I bought it (including turning the garage into an office/guest room).
Laga - Aug 29, 2009 9:49:47 am PDT #21283 of 30000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
6 months sounds like too soon to me unless there are practical considerations like a lease coming up for renewal.
Erin, I don't know the answer, but I am terribly happy for you that you've gotten to this point. :)
wait, can I change my answer? I may be commitment phobic.
DavidS - Aug 29, 2009 9:49:57 am PDT #21284 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Has he given any kinds of hints or openings, Erin?
Have any long term plans been bruited about? Because you can usually gauge from those when to open this topic.
Scrappy - Aug 29, 2009 9:53:41 am PDT #21285 of 30000
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
Erin, I would just ask. But learn to follow up after the first answer. When I was in the same circumstances and brought this up to the DH, his answer was that he "didn't think it was a good idea." When I picked my heart off the floor and finally asked why, and he said, "Well, this place is so small, where would we put our books and clothes? I just moved in as I don't want to have to move again so soon" So, his issue wasn't the living together but the practicality of it--and he ended up having a captain's bed built so I would have room for my clothes and we cohabited very nicely thenkyewverymuch.
Cass - Aug 29, 2009 9:55:10 am PDT #21286 of 30000
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
Our climbing rose in front of the house is making another attempt to reach the power lines.
Go, Audrey, go!
Are the two or three nights that you aren't spending together "oh, time on my own, yay, I can have time of my very own" or just a scheduling thing, Erin?
Laga - Aug 29, 2009 9:55:53 am PDT #21287 of 30000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
I'd never heard of a captain's bed and now I want one.
Jessica - Aug 29, 2009 10:09:02 am PDT #21288 of 30000
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset
My neighborhood's block party is tonight too, but I think I'll skip it because today has been Attack Of The Demon Child at our house. Dylan woke up cranky and has been refusing to speak all day. He points and grunts. When we ask him to use his words, he'll sign instead. I'd be worried he had a stroke, except that when I threaten a time out if he doesn't use words, he suddenly has a momentary full recovery. So whatever's going on, it's entirely mood related and I am SICK TO DEATH OF IT.
Barb - Aug 29, 2009 10:10:15 am PDT #21289 of 30000
“Not dead yet!”
buying without having sold the old house previously
This is going to be us should we move. We've never been able to sell a place before we've moved out of it because 1) we have a lot of shit and it's impossible to keep a house staged for selling and 2) the dogs. It's literally just easier for us to move out. The worst part is knowing that we're going to take a financial hit on a move since we bought before the market bottomed out so spectacularly and so the value on our house has dropped immensely. The only upside is that we bought the house at a good price for the time, since the owners really wanted out of it.