buying without having sold the old house previously

This is going to be us should we move. We've never been able to sell a place before we've moved out of it because 1) we have a lot of shit and it's impossible to keep a house staged for selling and 2) the dogs. It's literally just easier for us to move out. The worst part is knowing that we're going to take a financial hit on a move since we bought before the market bottomed out so spectacularly and so the value on our house has dropped immensely. The only upside is that we bought the house at a good price for the time, since the owners really wanted out of it.

I'm there 4 or 5 nights, we would both save some money, and we get along together really well. And, yo, I'm in love with him.

This part sounds more important than the 6 months part, to me. Scrappy is, as usual, wise, so I will echo her a bit - tell him what you want and why, just like you lay it out for us, and listen to his actual answer, don't try to guess what he "really" means. I'd imagine that factors like his son and history and blah blah blah being human-cakes make predicting his answer complicated, at best.

So happy you're happy, regardless!

Well, he's working on findi g a home for the dog his ex stuck hi with, and mentioned finding a new home for one of his 2 cats. I have two cats, so I can't help but think it's oblique planning. And it's not like I would want to move in tomorrow - I'm thinking maybe November...

And I spend time there for myself, and also because the shifting all my stuff from one place to the next is a pain...and I do need to feed my cats, take out the trash, spend a little time with the cats.

I think you are definitely better off having the conversation than planning on your own and i trying to guess what he's planning, fwtw.

Hmm. I'm more like thinking on my own. But I just asked for a drawer, and he was all "I didn't want to be pushy! Maybe you should have a dresser and some closet space."

So I think it's proceeding apace, and I will let it proceed organically, and stop fretting!

Zenkitty, it looks like there's a yellow rose with cinnamon edges called "Leonidas". It's gorgeous.

Congratulations on your new dresser and closet space, Erin!

Thank you! We're making chili... Weird early fall weather, but I love it

Well, cool, proceed organically!

Steve's here 3 to 4 nights a week. He has two drawers.

The nights that he's not here? I enjoy the hell out of them. He's a channel surfer, and will watch tv out of boredom - without ever settling on one program. Drives me up a wall, and I usually just go hang out anywhere but the room he's in. When he's not here, the tv is off except for dvd or baseball watching (with the very occasional Keith/Rachel/Colbert/Stewart).

I am in no rush to live with another human.

ETA: Contrary to how the above sounded, I do like cooking together and sharing meals, and hanging out together in general. It's just when the tv is turned on (sometimes as soon as he walks in!) that I sigh. Loudly.