See, now that's SNOW! We've got like a dusting so far, and everything's closed. It's insanity.

And there's a snow ban in Salem. Which they probably won't call off until tomorrow morning (and have it end somewhere around 9 am which is useless for anyone who works normal office hours)

Management would also like to remind you that, while your bid to defeat our puppet presidential candidate was successful, if your puppet president tries to tax us, or take our money in any way, we will cease employing anyone anywhere, fire everyone in this country, and give your jobs to penguins in Antarctica.

Management would further like to remind you that your job can be replaced by a retarded monkey and a button that doesn't work.

Please remember to sign up for the company Potluck on Friday!

And there's a snow ban in Salem.

How can they ban snow there??!!

One of our fave furniture stores (Pampa) is having a 50% off entire store sale. We went in on Saturday and looked around and measured some stuff. Last night we went back and bought a beautiful round dining table with 4 chairs (wood and leather), two barstools, and a small bookcase for our bedroom. All solid wood, made on-site. We spent $2100. Awesome! It should be ready to be delivered in 2-3 weeks. So excited!

Ooooh, shiny nice new furniture, GC. I am envious.

I am not, however, envious of various snow-emergency communications shinanigans. Truly of teh suck, Teppy. Be warm and safe.

Vortex, I'm sorry you are having such a tough time figuring out what your mother wants and/or needs from you. Be kind to yourself.

I can haz sister.

Shines

Yay, Shir!

sorry, I bitched and ran to a meeting

Vortex, it sounds more to me like your mom just wants company. It's not that she expects you to do things for her, but to be there with her. Maybe you could set up a regularly scheduled parental date night? That way she knows she's got your undivided attention at least on those days?

That's hard. I've got such a crazy schedule that I can't commit to things consistently because there are other things I can't change (like the theatre that i'm working 20 hours a week at because we've extended a show). I try to call at least every other day, if not every day. Honestly, I'm tired and being with my mother is exhausting.

Vortex, it sounds to me that your mom is lonely and probably at least a little depressed. There may be nothing that you can do to truly please her at this point, but it might help if you call and make plans to see her before she calls you. It could make her feel more wanted than when she calls you. I'm sorry you're in such a difficult situation.

yeah, there is that. The problem is that she only wants things on her terms. She got upset with me when I said "I'm going to be in your neck of the woods, so why don't we hang out" because "you're only suggesting that we spend time together because you're already going to be here. I'm only an afterthought" It's sort of a no win situation.

She was upset about the way I handled the situation, but I don't know what I could have done to make her happy. When I asked, she didn't really give me an answer other than I wanted you to know what I wanted.

{{{Vortex}}} It sounds like she is just filtering everything as an insult. I'm sorry. Next time just say, Do you want to get together on such and such a day without adding any details that she can make something of. I have much empathy. TCG's mom is currently playing her game of not returning his phone calls and then e-mailing him to let him know that she is upset that they haven't talked since Christmas.

My clients often struggle with the 'insult filter' and with folks like TCG's mom denying themselves what they say they want.

It appears self-defeating to say "I want connection" and then reject connection or demand connection under unreasonable constraints.

But that is just they way some folks function. Niether good nor bad, just a choice.

It's sad that some emotional wells just won't ever get filled, but it makes me even sadder when other people get pulled down into the morass.