Plan to go on wednesday --this way you can shore yourself up,get rest and sleep.I am assuming you will get called if there are any changes. If I could think of a way to go sit with her for awhile,so you wouldn't have to think about it, i would.

Sean, give yourself a break tonight, please. Get some food and relax. Wednesday is plenty soon enough to go back. You need to take care of you too. If it makes you feel better, call the hospital and check on her first.

Sean, feel free to tell me to butt the hell out since I'm such a newbie to this board, but seriously-- there is no prize for running yourself into the ground, either physically or emotionally.

While I admire the hell out of what you're doing, at the same time, I'm a big proponent of keeping some in the reserves, just for you. Lesson learned the hard way.

Okay, I'll stop now.

< /buttinsky>

Thanks for the kitty~ma. Casper is healthy as a horse! Woohoo!

Sean, please listen to these smart people. Take a night off. You need a couple of days away to help rebuild your mental and emotional reserves a bit.

Also, and please stick me in the buttinsky corner with Barb for saying this, I really hope you are seeing a therapist right now. I think it is essential for you to have a professional who can help monitor your own mental health and help you to make the best, healthiest decisions for yourself.

Love you.

damn this corner of concern is gonna get crowded.

Sean, stay home! If she is in/out of lucidness, there is nothing you can do. There is nothing wrong with visiting every few days. You need to keep your wits about you, or you are no use to her when she comes out of it all. Isn't her family around? If not, guilt trip them. She's your ex after all. You have a big project on your plate right now. I remember from last year. Oy vey it wipes you out walking around that place. Put your feet up. Take a nap. Go to bed. Have a beer. Smoke a bowl. Write a kick ass DnD campaign. Something that allows you time to recharge your batteries, what ever that may be.

:: shuffles into the corner with the others ::

Sean, you won't do anyone any favors, including yourself, if you push yourself until you collapse.

I just need her to come out of this.

I need her to come back, and I don't know if it's going to happen. I feel like it's not.

Oh honey. I know that none of us can tell you it's all going to be okay, but I wish we could. All I can tell you is that you are not alone, no matter what happens, and we will be here for you throughout. Please take care of yourself. Please don't try to do this alone. Please, please, please keep checking in and keep talking so we know you are still here. I am so worried about you (in case I haven't mentioned it). I'm concerned that this sustained level of trauma could lead to PTSD (and I'm serious about this, not using hyperbole). I don't know what else to do for you except to keep saying we're here and urging you to be good to our beloved Sean.

I wish I could tell you something you do could change the outcome. This is her fight.Honestly, if she does know you are there for her -- when you are physically there for her doesn't matter. Because you are there, even when you aren't sitting next to her.