I wish I could tell you something you do could change the outcome. This is her fight.Honestly, if she does know you are there for her -- when you are physically there for her doesn't matter. Because you are there, even when you aren't sitting next to her.
Oh, at first it was confusing. Just the idea of computers was like — whoa! I'm eleven hundred years old! I had trouble adjusting to the idea of Lutherans.
Anya ,'Get It Done'
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beth b - Sep 29, 2008 6:23:06 pm PDT #7006 of 10001
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
DavidS - Sep 29, 2008 6:59:59 pm PDT #7007 of 10001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
I need her to come back, and I don't know if it's going to happen. I feel like it's not.
As beth notes, you're not the difference in her getting better. You feel guilty. You broke up with her. She needs help. You care for her.
But you're not going to be the difference in whether she comes out of this or not. It is not under your control. It is not your responsibility even.
So quit pushing yourself to the edge physically and emotionally.
Because you're not helping her. And you're definitely hurting yourself.
Be there for her when it matters. Let the doctors and nurses do their job.
sj - Sep 29, 2008 7:03:08 pm PDT #7008 of 10001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Hec is wise.
ION, I hate the insomnia fairy. She's visiting again, and I thought I made it clear to her last time that she was not welcome.
DCJensen - Sep 29, 2008 7:05:29 pm PDT #7009 of 10001
All is well that ends in pizza.
Skipping and skimming tonight.
I guess I would have to propose one should spend a good amount of time on Youtube watching Grammar Rock classics.
Of course, I do that anyway....
WindSparrow - Sep 29, 2008 7:14:48 pm PDT #7010 of 10001
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
connie, good luck on the grammar test and the rest of the interview process.
{{{{{{Sean}}}}}
Pix - Sep 29, 2008 7:25:24 pm PDT #7011 of 10001
The status is NOT quo.
In meme news, not that it in any ways compares to the crap others are dealing with, I am getting a cold. I'm sniffly and sneezy and all the other dwarves, too.
Trudy Booth - Sep 29, 2008 7:30:15 pm PDT #7012 of 10001
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
I just need her to come out of this.
I need her to come back, and I don't know if it's going to happen. I feel like it's not.
I know, Baby. You also need some rest. Nothing is likely to make anything any better right now, but get some rest.
meara - Sep 29, 2008 8:17:32 pm PDT #7013 of 10001
I hear ya Kristin--I'm coughing like a deep bellowing coughing thing. Not sniffling, but loud and annoying nonetheless. And worried this'll hang on for weeks and weeks. Hrmph. DO NOT WANT!
Pix - Sep 30, 2008 12:18:28 am PDT #7014 of 10001
The status is NOT quo.
t snuggles sick meara
To add insult to injury, I finally had to face an annoying medical problem I've been having, and it's one of those truly embarassing ailments that I feel completely uncomfortable dealing with or talking about. I'm not going to say more because, as I said, embarassing and uncomfortable, but I'm really not looking forward to the doctor's appointment I'm going to have to make tomorrow. My body can give me a break anytime now, IJS. Comfortable and easy-to-fix-ma would be appreciated.
Gadget_Girl - Sep 30, 2008 12:29:32 am PDT #7015 of 10001
Just call me "Siouxsie Shunshine".
Thanks for the advice, Burrell. I've reported the abuse to her guidance counselor and to one of the asst. principals. She has talked to both of them, too. We've tried to get her to see the school social worker but it wasn't successful, she has some issues with men. The school psychologist just told her she couldn't dwell on the past as it "wasn't healthy", then called her mom to try to verify some of things. Mom talked a smooth like and the girl got in trouble when she got home for "talking to people and being a drama queen."
The county doesn't see verbal abuse as a reason to get involved. If the mom does anything physical, then they can do something. This mom has done so much damage to this poor kid. I'm just hoping she can get to graduation and then get out of here. We've talked about her trying to get help once she gets to college and is out of her mom's grasp (dad isn't any help as he just wants to keep the mom happy).
Guidance talked about the girl going to stay with someone for a bit; however, mom has said if she ever didn't come home she would report her to the police as a runaway. The mom also keeps saying she is going to have the girl emancipated and be done with her. She gets told she is a disappointment regularly. The mom has also started spending the girls college fund because the mom "needs things" and the daughter is "ungrateful and a disappointment."
One of the recent ones was the mom calling after school to tell the girl to come home because "she was bored and needed someone to yell at" (I heard the phone call). The mom is nuts. I know bi-polar runs in her family on both sides and that both the mom's parents committed suicide. The mom doesn't seek help, though. If a doctor says something she doesn't like, she just changed doctors.
I just get told to "be there for her" and to let them know if "things become serious." WHAT!? Things are serious and the system is broken and they aren't doing anything!