Fucking people, I swear.

Yes. Plus it didn't help that one of the reasons the woman at the end of the row didn't get up was that she was on her iPhone, basically ignoring her young daughter that she was out with.

IO(catty)N, the daughter was dressed appropriately, but the woman was wearing a dress that went to about mid-thigh. Sigh.

Also, I highly recommended the VIP room at the Orpheum. You know, when your sister's paying for it.

also playing with a kid is work, not at all always fun, least of all when you don't want to.

The article makes a point that sharing equitably is not necesesarily the goal. That it depends on the values of your family etc.

Our day care person was all up in arms on K's behalf because for the past 3 days she has done pick up while I'm working. It was that way until K pointed out that I made enough in those 3 hours of work to pay for daycare for a week and a half.

I guess for us equality is important, but it's not day by day equality. It's more like, now that she isn't working and I am, she does the dishes four times as much. In a month or two, it will flop back to me doing it for a while. Then no one doing it.

It doesn’t include the fun stuff, like playing and reading and kissing good night.

My guess is they didn't want it to count as work if it was "fun" which is stupid given that lots of work is fun. And because AFAIAC playing/entertaining the kids all day long is a LOT of work! Speaking of which, I should go clean the kitchen so I can make some play dough.

also playing with a kid is work, not at all always fun, least of all when you don't want to.

I totally agree! Sometimes, I don't want to be the human jungle gym. Sometimes I'd like to just sit on the floor and check my email.

equality is important, but it's not day by day equality.

Yeah, this is how DH and I work. We try to make it average out by the end of the month, more or less.

they didn't want it to count as work if it was "fun" which is stupid given that lots of work is fun.

Right - it's like saying if there are parts of your job you love you shouldn't get paid for those hours.

The whole point of going to the theater is that it's a Big Deal! It costs a lot of money! You should dress up! And not have a goddamned snack! You should have a nice dinner beforehand!

Hey, when we're fighting for dollars with the multiplex down the street? I'll take what advantage there is. Even my dinky little independent shows are more expensive than a movie.

But this is like travel for a lot of people - I feel that people should dress nicely for airflight (or at least sensibly), but there a lot of people who resent being told that they shouldn't dress like they're in their own living room. It's all about societal expectations, and Americans have a long history of resenting external expectations being imposed upon them.

One of the families in an article keeps a color coded spreadsheet. First reaction: whoa way to keep score! That must cause conflicts. But then my second reaction was, "I wonder if we did that, if it really would look equitable through whatever lens we choose."

I wonder how skewed that is by taking out the fun stuff equation. Paul does the lion's share of the fun stuff. I know it exhausts him (but he's better at it than I am).

It occurs to me that I'm really angry about subbing.

The class I'm in has been a party class, a class where the admin and the other teachers tacitly accepted the fact that kids who weren't supposed to be here trouped in and out and no one did anything about it. Even when a kid couldn't be located on campus, they new to check her for that student.

I'm bitter, I think, because I'm unwilling to force one group of kids (the homeroom group) to do the portfolio they are supposed to do. I'm supposed to pass them off to the next teacher. My sense is that the lead teacher in this small learning team is mad at me about not doing this.

But she didn't do anything to help establish order in here. And why should I, in my extreme lame dunk position as a fucking sub in the last 3 weeks of school, wrestle with kids to get them to do it? LAME.