I hope you don't think that I just come over for the spells and everything. I mean, I really like just talking and hanging out with you and stuff.

Willow ,'First Date'


Spike's Bitches 41: Thrown together to stand against the forces of darkness  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


juliana - May 22, 2008 12:54:01 pm PDT #172 of 10001
I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I miss them all tonight…

Divorced, Theater Geek, Alaskan, Green Bay Packers RULE!!, Get The Hell Out Of My Way


amych - May 22, 2008 12:55:22 pm PDT #173 of 10001
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?

If You're In My Bubble I Will Stab You.

No, I Mean It.


meara - May 22, 2008 12:55:43 pm PDT #174 of 10001

Yeah, but part of the problem with gay is that unlike orphan (unless you're, like, the Menendez kids) people can hold it against you. And if you're my grocery store clerk? I don't care. And if you're a possible friend? I want to know, so I can avoid becoming friends. But if you're someone I have to work with? Well, it gets tricky. So it's not about being there the first day and dropping "Blah blah blah MY GIRLFRIEND OH YEAH I'm A BIG GAY HOMO" into conversation. That's easy. If that was what it was about, I wouldn't have a problem. But at that same time, you don't want to just avoid talking about it, because really that's not cool either....and yet...


Glamcookie - May 22, 2008 12:56:45 pm PDT #175 of 10001
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister

GAY NOW


Kathy A - May 22, 2008 12:58:33 pm PDT #176 of 10001
We're very stretchy. - Connie Neil

Single and Not Dating, Work Two Jobs, Go BEARS!, Yes I Know I'm Fat--Why Don't You Point Out Something a Little More Obvious?, I Do Have a Lot of Books and I Have Read or Intend To Read All of Them


meara - May 22, 2008 12:58:40 pm PDT #177 of 10001

Also, can I mention how much more annoying it is to come out when you DON"T have a partner/girlfriend? Because then it's harder to slip a whole "blah blah my girlfriend" into conversation.

You have to be all awkward "blah blah my exgirlfriend" which...why are you talking about an ex? Or you have to be like super passionate about a gay subject, and hope people pick up on it? "Gee, the new girl really likes the Indigo Girls, and rainbows, and was happy about the recent California ruling on gay marriage. Think she's one of...them?" Or like, "Yeah this weekend I went to the GAY BAR" which...not always cool, at work, to talk about going to a BAR...

LAME.


amych - May 22, 2008 1:01:13 pm PDT #178 of 10001
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?

I think your worry in Seattle is more that there are so many birki-wearing Subaru-driving Indigo Girls fans that nobody would notice...


megan walker - May 22, 2008 1:03:36 pm PDT #179 of 10001
"What kind of magical sunshine and lollipop world do you live in? Because you need to be medicated."-SFist

But at that same time, you don't want to just avoid talking about it, because really that's not cool either....and yet...

I don't know, I don't really share many personal details with people at work. And I have a tendency to say my -ex, which is vague. In fact, a colleague at my last school thought I was a lesbian because I never used the term boyfriend and he knew that marriage equality was an important political issue for me--so he had just assumed I was a lesbian.


Pix - May 22, 2008 1:05:40 pm PDT #180 of 10001
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie

Okay, I kind of love the Gorey sash idea.

Divorced; Bisexual; Gay Dad/Divorced Parents; I'm Infertile, Stop Asking Me When I'm Going to Have Kids; Yes, I Live in Sin; Short & Blonde Does Not Equal Young and Stupid; I Can Teach Circles Around You, You Pompous Git.


tommyrot - May 22, 2008 1:06:58 pm PDT #181 of 10001
Sir, it's not an offence to let your cat eat your bacon. Okay? And we don't arrest cats, I'm very sorry.

People used to assume I was gay all the time. Not sure about now - I just don't meet that many new people these days....