You're nice, and you're funny and you don't smoke, and okay, werewolf, but that's not all the time. I mean, three days out of the month, I'm not much fun to be around, either.

Willow ,'Get It Done'


Spike's Bitches 41: Thrown together to stand against the forces of darkness  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


meara - May 22, 2008 12:58:40 pm PDT #177 of 10001

Also, can I mention how much more annoying it is to come out when you DON"T have a partner/girlfriend? Because then it's harder to slip a whole "blah blah my girlfriend" into conversation.

You have to be all awkward "blah blah my exgirlfriend" which...why are you talking about an ex? Or you have to be like super passionate about a gay subject, and hope people pick up on it? "Gee, the new girl really likes the Indigo Girls, and rainbows, and was happy about the recent California ruling on gay marriage. Think she's one of...them?" Or like, "Yeah this weekend I went to the GAY BAR" which...not always cool, at work, to talk about going to a BAR...

LAME.


amych - May 22, 2008 1:01:13 pm PDT #178 of 10001
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?

I think your worry in Seattle is more that there are so many birki-wearing Subaru-driving Indigo Girls fans that nobody would notice...


megan walker - May 22, 2008 1:03:36 pm PDT #179 of 10001
"What kind of magical sunshine and lollipop world do you live in? Because you need to be medicated."-SFist

But at that same time, you don't want to just avoid talking about it, because really that's not cool either....and yet...

I don't know, I don't really share many personal details with people at work. And I have a tendency to say my -ex, which is vague. In fact, a colleague at my last school thought I was a lesbian because I never used the term boyfriend and he knew that marriage equality was an important political issue for me--so he had just assumed I was a lesbian.


Pix - May 22, 2008 1:05:40 pm PDT #180 of 10001
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie

Okay, I kind of love the Gorey sash idea.

Divorced; Bisexual; Gay Dad/Divorced Parents; I'm Infertile, Stop Asking Me When I'm Going to Have Kids; Yes, I Live in Sin; Short & Blonde Does Not Equal Young and Stupid; I Can Teach Circles Around You, You Pompous Git.


tommyrot - May 22, 2008 1:06:58 pm PDT #181 of 10001
Sir, it's not an offence to let your cat eat your bacon. Okay? And we don't arrest cats, I'm very sorry.

People used to assume I was gay all the time. Not sure about now - I just don't meet that many new people these days....


megan walker - May 22, 2008 1:10:12 pm PDT #182 of 10001
"What kind of magical sunshine and lollipop world do you live in? Because you need to be medicated."-SFist

People used to assume I was gay all the time. Not sure about now - I just don't meet that many new people these days...

I didn't really care, but it's not something I get often. It was particularly funny at the time because I was actually sleeping with someone in our circle of friends, but, since he was a dean and I was a faculty member, we weren't really telling people.

ETA: Personally, I didn’t think it was hard to hide our relationship, although I certainly wouldn’t want to have do that all the time. It was odd who could figure it out and who couldn’t based on the subtlest of clues.


Susan W. - May 22, 2008 1:12:27 pm PDT #183 of 10001
Good Trouble and Righteous Fights

Married, Have Preschooler, Military History Buff (Napoleonic Wars Subspecies), Liberal/Progressive AND Christian, Mariners Fan (disappointed but committed), Alabama Born and Bred (so don't diss my people as hillbillies or make "should've just let them secede" remarks in my hearing), Writer, Reader (stop trying to talk to me when my nose is in a book!), Dead Father/Mother Has Cancer (and if I want to talk about either, I'll tell you)


meara - May 22, 2008 1:18:48 pm PDT #184 of 10001

Well, yeah, I'm not necessarily big on telling people at work (and now that I'm working from home, it's not a thing--since we don't have "how was your weekend, what did you do?" chats, it's not a problem). But at the same time, when other people are chatting about what they did on the weekend, and you're making friends at work, and they're trying ot be nice because they know you just moved to town, and they talk about THEIR dates and partners and children...well, it's creepy and weird to be SILENT about it, and it's not cool to LIE about it...

I would rather be a little private. I would rather not give people ammunition. But I do not want to lie, and I do not think I should have to hide. It's a dilemma, what can I say? :)


brenda m - May 22, 2008 1:22:28 pm PDT #185 of 10001
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there

People used to assume I was gay all the time. Not sure about now - I just don't meet that many new people these days...

Yeah, for those of us who are chronically single (feh), it sometimes feels like people are thinking "there must be a reason she never talks about who she's dating." Which, whatever, except I guess that that's probably compounding the chronically single.


megan walker - May 22, 2008 1:23:36 pm PDT #186 of 10001
"What kind of magical sunshine and lollipop world do you live in? Because you need to be medicated."-SFist

and they talk about THEIR dates and partners and children

God I'm glad I work at a place where people don't really move beyond the "How was your weekend?" part of the question, because I hate even that.