If I told you I think of you every time I have a sore throat, you'd realize that's a very sweet and tender memory, right?

Absolutely!

I love that this place can be so full of real sharing. We talk about silly things, about frustrating things, about the most joyful things, about the things that damage us, and about the things that heal us. I feel grateful that there is such an openness here.

Thank you for sharing so openly Bonny, and congratulations on claiming and shaping your life in such positive ways. Your strength and courage is inspiring.

{{{Nora}}} I don't even know what to say, sweetheart, except that I am so very sorry. Peace and strength to you and yours, and may be the LAST tragedy to touch your life for a good long while.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, BEVERLY!

Around Christmas, I was playing one of those games where you have to get the people to say a word or phrase by giving clues. One of my clues made everyone laugh like crazy and is still in use.

Clue: "Something happened. Of course it happened!"

Answer: Murphy's Law

{{Nora}} Strength to you and yours

bonny, thank you for sharing. As to your experience with the support group, I once dropped out of one because I felt it was encouraging me (and possibly the others) to keep the outlook of being victims. With all the talk of being "survivors" we were still talking about things that had happened TO us rather than what we were DOING. So ... I chose another way to go. And it was better for me.

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Dave Niehaus finally wins the Frick Award! [link]

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And happy birthday Beverly! may it be full of shiny things!

I had a coworker whose husband died- they knew it was going to happen - they found out he was HIV positive just before they got married. ( this was still in the earlier days) . she went to a support group after his death, but left it pretty quickly because they were encouraging her to wallow and mourn - and the major thing she had learned from her life with her husband - was to keep going/doing , because you don't know how much time you have.

I had my first therapy session today. I like the therapist. Don't like therapy. Hope I can actually do the work and make it better. Less about the jackass, more about other stuff. The part that makes me want to hide or shirk thinks it was useless. The rest of me hopes that part doesn't win.

All of me hopes to not cry on my patients today.

Not to speak for her, but erika has also talked about some of the negative effects - particularly the validating stasis - that can occur in support groups.