Jayne: Here's a little concept I been workin' on. Why don't we shoot her first? Wash: It is her turn.

'Serenity'


Spike's Bitches 39: Cuppa Tea, Cuppa Tea, Almost Got Shagged, Cuppa Tea...  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


d - Feb 19, 2008 9:46:57 am PST #7047 of 10001
It's nice to see some brave pretenders trying to make it interesting.

I had my first therapy session today. I like the therapist. Don't like therapy. Hope I can actually do the work and make it better. Less about the jackass, more about other stuff. The part that makes me want to hide or shirk thinks it was useless. The rest of me hopes that part doesn't win.

All of me hopes to not cry on my patients today.


DavidS - Feb 19, 2008 9:48:21 am PST #7048 of 10001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

Not to speak for her, but erika has also talked about some of the negative effects - particularly the validating stasis - that can occur in support groups.


beekaytee - Feb 19, 2008 9:49:17 am PST #7049 of 10001
Compassionately intolerant

we were still talking about things that had happened TO us rather than what we were DOING.

Very much this.

That same minister I mentioned above did a talk on how taking the words 'to me' off the end of our accusatory statements would make life so much easier.

I can't believe you did that to me!

becomes

I can't believe you did that!

A subtle distinction, I suppose, but a useful one for making way for something more powerful.

The newest chapter of my book is "what we can't let be okay is what is standing in our way". By NO means excusing bad behavior, but, rather focusing on what value you can get from your experience. Without doing so...kinda makes the suffering a waste...you know?


Fred Pete - Feb 19, 2008 10:05:02 am PST #7050 of 10001
Ann, that's a ferret.

Happpy Birthday, Beverly!


Cashmere - Feb 19, 2008 10:09:55 am PST #7051 of 10001
Now tagless for your comfort.

{{Nora}}

Thanks for sharing that, bonny. You certainly do have perspective and I appreciate it a great deal.

Liv had her hearing checked today (just fine) and then we dropped Owen off at school and voted. She's covered with stickers from "I had my hearing checked" and "I voted." Those poll ladies are always suckers for her.

She was also carrying the wee, red, white and blue donkey Ginger gave Owen so that was especially charming. That thing rides around with us everywhere during election years.


beekaytee - Feb 19, 2008 10:10:07 am PST #7052 of 10001
Compassionately intolerant

The rest of me hopes that part doesn't win.

Go team this part! it's easy for me to say that it's worth it because I'd be dead now without it. But what I will say is...you don't have to buy into the notion that therapy is, by definition, hard. We really do have the capacity to observe our lives in a constructive way without re-wounding ourselves with memory. May your journey be a rich and frultful one.


Steph L. - Feb 19, 2008 10:11:22 am PST #7053 of 10001
I look more rad than Lutheranism

Dave Niehaus finally wins the Frick Award! [link]

Aw. I was hoping that Nuxhall would get it.


Sparky1 - Feb 19, 2008 10:24:49 am PST #7054 of 10001
Librarian Warlord

{{Nora}}

bonny, what everyone else said.

Little Miss Muddy Face: [link]

I just had lunch with Maria, and I can't believe it took us a year to tear ourselves away from our respective desks to do so. Craxy!


SuziQ - Feb 19, 2008 10:26:09 am PST #7055 of 10001
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame

Text message exchange...

K-Bug: Ya know what's great? Being home alone.

Me: Awww. Ya gonna vacuumm nekkid?

K-Bug: Too cold for that.


DavidS - Feb 19, 2008 10:32:27 am PST #7056 of 10001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

Little Miss Muddy Face:

Good puppy!

I just had lunch with Maria

Lucky!